just_scott Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 hey i was wondering this if an ex is the dumper [like in my case] and gave no reason ,explination of why they did what they did to you after time together [ my case ex just up and walked out after 4 yrs together didn't say anything really] wouldn't it bother them even subconsiously ,wouldn't they say i could have handled that differently,or i wouldn't like that done to me etc .AND you know that their still thinking of you ,maybe even wondering if they made the right decission WOULDN'T that prevent them from moving on or healing ?even if it's a case og g.i.g.s. I know and understand that they've probably started distancing themselves from you in their minds a long time ago before they took the actions BUT you're best friends and shred so much told each other your secrets your hopes your dreams and had a strong bond wouldn't them not giving the full closure just bug the hell out of them ? I know with me it would i would take the others feelings into consideration and have respect for them and say o.k. man up and tell her what's going on and why ,cause if i didn't it would sure bug me that i didn't give her a chance to be heard you know see where she stands on everything
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I think the best thing for you to do is accept that you will never know the real reason. my ex didn't give me a reason when she dumped me so I went to her house one night uninvited and tried talking to her just to figure out why she left. I still never got a solid reason... got a switch between I'm indifferent towards you now, I still love you, I just want to be single for a while, ect ect. basically I got every classic line and she would not tell me anything specific on why she didn't want to be with me. Learn to accept the fact that you will never know why... after you accept this I think you will find it much easier to heal and move on.
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