WorstDriver Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Well lately me and my girlfriend have been having some relationship problems and she basically said that she feels like things arent the same. Prior to that, we both constantly argue and make little situations big.. I put her through allot of ****, but all in all she fell deeply in love with me. Now she is saying that she lost feelings but is too inlove with me to let anything go. I told her I would change my ways just to make things workout between us. I'd stop causing dumb arguments and everything just to make her happy once again. In fact, once I felt like I was going to start losing her, I emmediately changed and started acting different. Basically showing her that I can stop and prevent all the bull**** arguements. I'll do whatever it takes just to get her feelings back, so I'm putting my all in it. But she tells me "Yeah.. but I know how I am.." even though I really don't know what that means... I even had a talk with her bestfriend whom she tells everything to and she tells me "Arguments really push her away when it comes to relationships! she doesnt like them at all.. Even though you told her you were gonna change your ways, I think its better that you show her because actions speak louder than words. If you show her that you can stop arguing and change, then I think that she'll gain her feelings back and not want to break up with you. As far as her saying 'She knows how she is' I think she means that she knows she won't put up with all the arguing for long. I know she loves you allot so I don't think she will give up that quickly especially if you make things right." I don't know what to do, I'm seriously stuck!
derek519 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Man! How our situations are so similar. I've been in the same way with my gf I just long this weekend. We were both stubborn and have arguments over the smallest things. She was crazy and in love with me for a while but I was a bit slower coming up. When I fell in love with her and wanted to change I think I lost her and she had the impression you can't change who you are and we are just not compatible. I just think its bs!
thelovingkind Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 In my experience, once one person starts talking about "losing feelings" things are almost certainly over no matter how much rhetorical gloss and window dressing is applied to make the let down gentler. You need to get to the heart of the matter quickly; don't waste weeks trying to be a better man for her if this boat has already sailed.
Author WorstDriver Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Man! How our situations are so similar. I've been in the same way with my gf I just long this weekend. We were both stubborn and have arguments over the smallest things. She was crazy and in love with me for a while but I was a bit slower coming up. When I fell in love with her and wanted to change I think I lost her and she had the impression you can't change who you are and we are just not compatible. I just think its bs! I've shown her that I can change. And I always ask her if she's happy and she says yes. I KNOW she still has it for me, I know she doesn't want to leave me nor will. She says she REALLY wants to work things out for me, for the better. She says that things should change over time, if we're meant to be then we're meant to be. And she tells me that she honestly can't see me or herself with someone else. I really want to give this a go, but I'm afraid that at the end her feelings don't rise, and I wasted my time. It's a 50/50 you know?
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