Mnesic Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 (edited) Thanks for looking at my thread, as you can see I'm new here to the community and maybe you guys could help me with my dilemma.. I'm still fairly young and this is my first relationship.. I've been in this relationship for 1 year and 8 months, and last week I just ended my relationship on a text message. My relationship has been on and off for the last few months more than ever, we would argue and I would end up dumping her. Most of the time I would ask for her back. ( pathetic right ? ) Well this time I dumped her and I really thought it was best for me if we didn't see each other, and I wasn't thinking about her feelings as usual.. I needed to end this constant break up and get back together, but that was all my doing and I know that If I have her back things would be stable.. I have paranoid and avoidant personality disorder and I'm taking anti - depressants.. so it's better now. I really really miss her a lot, the last time I heard from her was 3 days ago.. Would It be better if I just let her go? I do love her and I miss her a lot.. But I want to look out for her more than myself and if shes happy I would leave her alone. If she has a new boyfriend in such a short time, I wouldn't be surprised because it wouldn't be the first time. The last thing I told her was that I'm sorry and if she needs anything it would be on to come to me. What do you guys think I should do? I'm trying to leave her alone because that was what I proposed to her at first.. I want to ask her back but it would be so pathetic of me and I think she already knows I do Edited June 25, 2011 by Mnesic
Ultrasonic Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Firstly, it's not pathetic to want someone you love back. It's also human nature to not realize what you have until you lose it. So stop thinking that. Secondly, what did you argue about? Serious stuff? Childish stuff? Pointless arguments? If she's taken you back once or more than once already; clearly she's atleast still slightly interested, immediately picking up other guys though; is something to be careful about, for yourself. Maybe you need more than three days to really think about your relationship, where it was going; and where it's headed before you make this decision.
Author Mnesic Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Firstly, it's not pathetic to want someone you love back. It's also human nature to not realize what you have until you lose it. So stop thinking that. Secondly, what did you argue about? Serious stuff? Childish stuff? Pointless arguments? If she's taken you back once or more than once already; clearly she's atleast still slightly interested, immediately picking up other guys though; is something to be careful about, for yourself. Maybe you need more than three days to really think about your relationship, where it was going; and where it's headed before you make this decision. Thank you for your reply , we had broken up because I told her that I didn't trust her around her friends, and she has been seeing them more often than before. When she goes out with them shes a different person and just brushes me off, She ignored me for like 2 days when she went out with them. and when we had broken up before she would always try to contact me after the break up and try to fix things but this time its like she has someone else or not interested .. I did tell her some mean things like I had lost feelings for her but I don't know why I said that and I had apologized afterwards.. Shes been going out with her friends almost everyday now, and I dislike her friends.. they tell her things to put me down. I guess I'll wait a few more days..
wilsonx Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Thank you for your reply , we had broken up because I told her that I didn't trust her around her friends, and she has been seeing them more often than before. When she goes out with them shes a different person and just brushes me off, She ignored me for like 2 days when she went out with them. and when we had broken up before she would always try to contact me after the break up and try to fix things but this time its like she has someone else or not interested .. I did tell her some mean things like I had lost feelings for her but I don't know why I said that and I had apologized afterwards.. Shes been going out with her friends almost everyday now, and I dislike her friends.. they tell her things to put me down. I guess I'll wait a few more days.. Look, Im going to tell you from experience... if you're gut is telling you things about her and her friends... keep the relationship ended. I promise you you are right even though she may deny it. Always go with your gut instinct, its telling you something for a reason. I WISH I went with my gut instinct 3 months ago. Stick to your breakup, dont be wishy washy about it. Find someone that you do not have to worry about hanging out with their friends and that you can trust
Author Mnesic Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 Look, Im going to tell you from experience... if you're gut is telling you things about her and her friends... keep the relationship ended. I promise you you are right even though she may deny it. Always go with your gut instinct, its telling you something for a reason. I WISH I went with my gut instinct 3 months ago. Stick to your breakup, dont be wishy washy about it. Find someone that you do not have to worry about hanging out with their friends and that you can trust Thanks for your reply wilson.. I dont know what to do really, its summer time and I really miss her.. I guess I'll wait and see
Author Mnesic Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I just found out that shes dating the guy I was fearing.. I guess he was there for her when I dumped her. I'm devastated I dont know what to do, I regret this so so so much.. I called her and she black listed my phone number, I really dont know what to do im breaking down w
errlack Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I just found out that shes dating the guy I was fearing.. I guess he was there for her when I dumped her. I'm devastated I dont know what to do, I regret this so so so much.. I called her and she black listed my phone number, I really dont know what to do im breaking down w bro, step one is to take a big step back. Don't go nuts. Don't call her. Don't text her. Deactivate your Facebook. You need some time to yourself to get your head back. Go NC. Nothing you do while in this emotional state is going to be attractive to her.
Author Mnesic Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 bro, step one is to take a big step back. Don't go nuts. Don't call her. Don't text her. Deactivate your Facebook. You need some time to yourself to get your head back. Go NC. Nothing you do while in this emotional state is going to be attractive to her. Thanks for the reply errlack, I refrained myself to 1 phone call and 1 email. Im going to NC and leave her alone from now on, It sucks because I suspected that this was going to happen, not the first time either. and I convinced myself that I had some paranoid personality disorder because I didnt trust her. UGH
Ultrasonic Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 If she has blocked your number, then it's time to move on. That alone was her decision; that means she wont unblock it and contact you until she thinks you're useful. This a one sided relationship; I suggest moving on.
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