Author Lilmisus Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 The sixteen and drug dealer could've been in the original post, dontcha think? Kinda relevant I was going to, but...I didn't want people to scream "troll" for having too many unbelievable aspects to the story. There aren't many 20 year old drug dealing baby daddys who are trying to hook up with 16 year olds...at least I hope not. And to answer the question, her parents do know, but aren't cool with it at all, and have told her not to see him. I could tell her aunt who I'm good friends with, but I think I'm hoping that I don't have to go through anyone like that. I know his son's mother, and she doesn't need to have her baby's father be a registered sex offender either. I'm just so hoping and praying that there's a way to convince her to go for someone who's actually her age who means it when they say they love her. Any other suggestions would be appreciated. What's something I could say to her that would really make her open her eyes? And I already tried telling her that he could go to jail and apparently they've talked about it, and he's cool with it..I dunno.
Nexus One Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Money (in dating) is the concentration of skills and efforts achieved over time and with care onto one point in time with one person is the focus, in this case the young woman. Money is a name for all those aspects, reduced into a form of easily negotiable currency; currency that many women look to as a prerequisite of making themselves available to a man for dating or a relationship or a marriage. Fairness dictates she offer something of value in return, or else the dynamic is inequitable. Generally, she offers what a man's male companions cannot, that being female affection and sex. In a healthy dynamic, IMO, both partners are offering equally, using the strengths of each other's 'currency'. That's a very verbose way to explain prostitution. Let's be honest here, if at the core of a relationship lies the agreement that she provides sexual services in exchange for money from him, then that's nothing short of prostitution. While some guys are perfectly fine with such agreements, personally I'm not looking for such a relationship, as there's nothing meaningful about that.
carhill Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 If sex is her only currency and there is no love nor intimacy, prostitution would be a description I could agree with. Generally, a prostitute does not provide physical affection, empathy or care for her/his client. Some will be happy to 'talk' or 'listen' instead of having sex, but without care or concern. IME, (documentaries and listening to the streetwalkers where I worked) prostitutes generally don't kiss their clients or offer any other normal signs of affection. After seeing a lot of this in life, to me, money and sex can be mere currencies to lubricate a potentially more meaningful, elemental exchange, perhaps not in evidence in this thread (the OP's friend), that of emotional and spiritual intimacy, trust and bonding. On the surface, that sounds coarse, but really examining the dynamics of relationships and marriages IMO proves it to be a surprisingly relevant aspect.
Richard Friedman Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Guys like him are a disgrace to men, Guys like him gives the rest of us a bad name unfortunately. But if she is to stupid to realise what a jerk he is then I cant really feel sorry for her. Versus a guy like you who will masturbate 6 months while paying for a girl's $100 dinners and writing bad poetry..
UpDownAllAround Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Versus a guy like you who will masturbate 6 months while paying for a girl's $100 dinners and writing bad poetry.. Versus a guy like you who just endorsed a guy who rapes underage women?
threebyfate Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 It's creepy when sex and money are considered connected elements within a relationship. There's nothing wrong with him wanting to have sex everytime they're together. But the relating to cash is revolting. She should ditch the whacko!
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