vballtay Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 A long time guy friend told me he really liked me and wanted me to be his girlfriend when things died down with my ex (recently broken up). He told his friends and family this as well. Now , for reasons I cant really explain other than the fact that I guess I thought it was easier than getting into a full relationship so soon after my bad one just before, I steered our "relationship" more towards a friends with benefits type one. He didnt even sleep with me on the first night , and he told me "not tonight, I dont think you understand how much I really like you". But after assuring him thats what I wanted, we've had sex on several occasions since. I really like him now. I did the whole time, but I think Im really falling for this guy. However, Im scared that since we got into the FWB routine, thats all he sees me as now. Where he made his feelings clear before, he doesnt really anymore, even when I try to give him a little push telling him I like him. We still go out together and have a great time, but now it seems like it always ends in sex, which Im not sure if is a good thing or not. If the feelings were there before the sex, would the benefits affect them that much to where he went from "wow, I really like this girl" to "shes just a girl Im sleeping with." ?
Feelin Frisky Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 You sound like you could complicate a cup of coffee.
leftmeforcali Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 He's probably scared to admit his feelings now! You terrified the guy! You should sit down and talk to him and admit your feelings, because at this point what do you have to lose? if you tell him and he says "Sorry i dont look at you like a girlfriend anymore" THEN AT LEAST YOU WILL KNOW!!!! be strong!!!!
bac Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 We still go out together and have a great time, but now it seems like it always ends in sex, which Im not sure if is a good thing or not. If the feelings were there before the sex, would the benefits affect them that much to where he went from "wow, I really like this girl" to "shes just a girl Im sleeping with." ? BTW, FWBs do not go out together and they do not have a great time going out. The typical FWBs do have only sex. FWBs do not have any connection except sexual connection. You do not know if he had any feelings for you before sex because many men do say sweet/romantic things when they are only after sex. I have no idea why you need to label your connection with the guy as FWBs. People who are in other types of relationships have sex as well.
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