Surf Rider Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 It's been a little over a year since my ex left me. It was very devastating to me for a few months but im doing much better. Occasionally i catch myself thinking about a memory i shared with her. Is this normal?
USMCHokie Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 You know when you don't have to ask yourself if you're over her. And yes, it's perfectly normal to think about a memory with an ex. Hell, it's been almost two years now since I broke up with my ex...I still think about her once in a blue moon... Just keep doing what you're doing and you'll be fine.
just_scott Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 yea i think it's pretty normal to think about your ex especially the fun / good times you could just see something and it will remind you of them i don't know if that ever completly goes away , i guess just don't dwell on the memory just smile and say that was fun back when AND depending on how the relationship was i think you'll always wonder about the other in some way like wonder what they're up to , or what their doing,are they datting ,or married etc .I guess if the ex misses us that much they'd make attempts to get in touch with us MY ex lives about a 1/2 hour from me and everytime i see the make ,model, and color of the car she drives i'm looking to see if it's her OR if i'm in a store i'm always looking to see if she's their it just happens
joostay Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I'm on day 3 of a breakup with my fiancee and gf of 8 years. I literally can't imagine the pain Im in going away. 8 years. That's a quarter of my life. I know it's an unanswerable question but I'll ask it anyway: how long will it take before the pain starts to subside and fully goes away??
derek519 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 In your case Joostay, I'd say its gonna be a long time, but it all depends on the person. It could take many months or many years.
bsweet00 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I'm on day 3 of a breakup with my fiancee and gf of 8 years. I literally can't imagine the pain Im in going away. 8 years. That's a quarter of my life. I know it's an unanswerable question but I'll ask it anyway: how long will it take before the pain starts to subside and fully goes away?? I know EXACTLY how you feel Joostay. My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years and I broke up like 3 months ago, he's already 'in a relationship' with someone new and it's like he moved on and all these years we spent together just vanished from his memory. It's ridiculously difficult at first, and I still find myself crying at times, wishing I could be in his life again. I miss him everyday. But in my eyes, it's his loss. I'm a much better person now than I was even a few months ago. Physically and emotionally. You should do the same. Become better FOR YOURSELF. Even if she never comes back to see the great person you've become, you'll feel satisfied. And you'll give someone else a chance to see the amazing person you can be, someone who will truly appreciate it. Keep yourself busy. It gets better with time, I promise!!
joostay Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I know EXACTLY how you feel Joostay. My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years and I broke up like 3 months ago, he's already 'in a relationship' with someone new and it's like he moved on and all these years we spent together just vanished from his memory. It's ridiculously difficult at first, and I still find myself crying at times, wishing I could be in his life again. I miss him everyday. But in my eyes, it's his loss. I'm a much better person now than I was even a few months ago. Physically and emotionally. You should do the same. Become better FOR YOURSELF. Even if she never comes back to see the great person you've become, you'll feel satisfied. And you'll give someone else a chance to see the amazing person you can be, someone who will truly appreciate it. Keep yourself busy. It gets better with time, I promise!! Thanku People are telling me that time is the only thing that will help, absolutely nothing else. It just sucks that I can't motivate myself to get out of this slump. It feels like I'm living in a dream, a nightmare. But a year from now, I'll be OK. That's what I'm telling myself. Thanku
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 It's been a little over a year since my ex left me. It was very devastating to me for a few months but im doing much better. Occasionally i catch myself thinking about a memory i shared with her. Is this normal? yes very normal, but if you can imagine her sleeping with someone else or anything along those lines and not be hurt I think you are over that person. Thanku People are telling me that time is the only thing that will help, absolutely nothing else. It just sucks that I can't motivate myself to get out of this slump. It feels like I'm living in a dream, a nightmare. But a year from now, I'll be OK. That's what I'm telling myself. Thanku it seems like a dream now, but after a while you will eventually think back on the relationship and that will seem like one big dream, or nightmare.
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