wysiwyg6000 Posted July 12, 2011 Posted July 12, 2011 Because me and my girlfriend were at that point in our relationship just 2 months ago only for her to pull the rug from under my feet. Since I had my epiphany moment with my girl where I wanted to propose to her the kind of life mentioned in this thread has been all I've wanted with her, and now seeing people having that life makes me very sad. I know what you're going through. I had my life just the way that I finally wanted it and was just in reach of my dream...and then, poof! It's gone! I've been struggling ever since to get that back. The only thing I can say is that it was just an illusion and a dress rehearsal for the real thing. Process the lessons you learned for the real thing so that it's right for the next time.
dicky_fish Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 It's happened yet again! 4 of my friends have got engaged recently (the last one this weekend) and as much as I want to be happy for them I find I'm harbouring a deep resentment for them. This totally sucks!
ScienceGal Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Don't get discouraged Dicky! I would rather be single forever than marry the wrong person. I do want to get married, but I never want to get divorced. That means waiting, and patience and good decision making (still working on that last one) My dad once told me "You're not getting any younger you know!" My mother (married to my dad 40+ years w/ 5 kids) then shook her head and said to me "no, the hippies had it right, don't get married, just shack up!" haha!
ScienceGal Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 the having babies part doesn't really bother me as i've been screaming that i don't want kids since i was five years old. i'm 35 now so either my biological clock is either broken or it's being satisfied by taking care of my dog and two cats. i don's hate kids i just don't want the responsibility. Darcy, I think Franklin80 might want your number. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=295110
radiodarcy Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Darcy, I think Franklin80 might want your number. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=295110 ahahaha! thanks for the heads up ScienceGal. but it sounds like i'd have to forfeit sex in order to meet his criteria . that's one thing i can't compromise on. lol.
dicky_fish Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I try ScienceGal, but we were a very tight-nit group of people and I'm the last one who's now single. They're all moving on to new pastures and getting everything they've worked for and I am stuck with a broken heart I didn't deserve, no real prospects. I'm dreading the end of September because we're all meeting up for one of the engagement parties and this'll be the first time I'll be on my own, and celebrating something I was hoping I'd be having for myself sometime next year. I feel horrible for resenting my friends but really can't help it
ScienceGal Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I try ScienceGal, but we were a very tight-nit group of people and I'm the last one who's now single. They're all moving on to new pastures and getting everything they've worked for and I am stuck with a broken heart I didn't deserve, no real prospects. I'm dreading the end of September because we're all meeting up for one of the engagement parties and this'll be the first time I'll be on my own, and celebrating something I was hoping I'd be having for myself sometime next year. I feel horrible for resenting my friends but really can't help it You know what? A couple of my close friends that are married with kids have told me that they secretly envy me because I can do anything I want pretty much. I have nothing tying me down. So, don't forget that everyone at some point wants for what someone else has... lifestyle GIGS?! I have my moments too. I want all of those things in life. I get upset and feel like I am getting old. But, like I said in a previous post, I want to marry the right person. Do not think for a moment that all of your friends have perfect relationships. Relationships are hard and they take work, the last thing you want is to rush and then figure out it was some schmuck that put a ring on your finger. Do not waste all of your time worrying about getting those "things". You will wake up when you are older and regret not living in the moment. This has been told to me again and again by older relatives. It's the "yeah, ok grandma"... and then I listen to her rattle on. But it's true. We do not understand how precious our lives are right now. Like now, as I type this. You will miss this moment. And the thousands of others that you waste worrying. It is easier said than done. I am still working on being 100% happy with me. Just work on the person you want to be and get into things that you really enjoy. You will meet more people like yourself and increase the chances of not just meeting a potential mate, but one that you can have a lasting relationship with.
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