Brisky1o1 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I am in a new relationship and I feel very good about this relationship. However I am trying to distinguish between my own personal feelings and what is real. Here is the low down on my situation. The guy I am dating now is a guy who I once dated in the past. (six years ago) We dated maybe about 4 or 5 months before going our own ways (no hard feelings between us) We both married other people and we both ended up divorced. His divorce was over 2 years ago, mine was just this year. About 2 months ago, I had my profile up on a dating website and lo and behold, there he was, also on this dating site. I sent him a hello message and he wrote me back giving me his number. We've been talking since. Now, I've liked this guy since the first time I dated him years ago (I wont go into the long story of what happened before but just know there were no hard feelings between us when we went our own ways) and even though I was married to someone else, this guy was always in my thoughts. I'm not sure if I believe in fate, destiny or meant-to-be's but I feel that for us to be re-united completely by chance has to mean something, right? Here is how things are going...we dont actually speak everyday. Maybe once or twice a week by phone and the quick occasional text message. I get to see him about once a week. I am okay with the seeing him once a week thing (for now anyways, would like that to increase eventually) we live about 35 minutes apart from each other. I have a job, I'm in college, I have 3 children and a house to maintain. I am both mom and dad as my ex-husband now lives an hour away. He has no kids of his own but he is a cop and that keeps him pretty busy. He is very dedicated to his work and I do admire that. I am to the place where I would like to take our relationship to the next level. Right now, I am not sure if I could even officially call him my boyfriend and I am not sure of his feelings for me. (Yes, we are having a sexual relationship if that makes any difference) He is very hard to read but I am sure that's the cop in him. I feel a great connection when I am with him and we have both since removed our dating profiles but we have not talked about being exclusive yet. Will that come naturally or should I ask him? The next step I would like to take with him is a simple one. I would like our communication to increase. I understand with our own personal lives we may not get to speak every day but I'd like to speak with him more than twice a week and even though I do get to see him an average of once a week, I never know when that one day a week will be. It's a play by ear type of deal. I want him to know that I would like more but I dont want to come on too strong. Is he still thinking about me even though we may go 4 or 5 days without speaking? Should I talk to him about things or just wait to see what may happen naturally? How do you date a cop? Is dating a cop different than dating your average Joe? I do have good reason to believe he likes me, I dont think I'm just a F**k to him. I am not sure where to go next with things, where should things stand after 2 months? Should we not know by now if we are going to go exclusive or not?
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