marcus1980 Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 About a year ago, my gf left me and moved to another state. When she told me that she was planning to leave, I took it in stride and initiated NC...for about 2 days. Then I broke down and begged her to stay. After a week and a half of begging, saying hurtful things and basically making an arse of myself, I realized how badly I was screwing things up and went back to NC. About a week after I re-initiated NC, she sent me a text message asking me what I was doing, but I did not respond to her. Some mutual friends of ours told me that she was going to be leaving within the next few days, and assuming that anything I said to them would find its way back to her, I told them that that was her decision and that I was happy for her. She left a few days later and I erased her number from my phone, so that I would not be tempted to call her. Three months ago, I got a text from a number I did not recognize asking me how I was doing (it was 4 in the morning). I chose not to respond but after a few weeks my curiosity got the better of me and I texted back. Of course, it was her. She apologized for everything that happened and I told her that I was sorry too. When I asked her why she texted me at such an odd hour, she told me that she was drunk. I decided not to pry any further and ended the conversation by telling her that I was glad she was doing alright and that I wished her the very best. Since then, I've been trying not to think about her, but I gotta tell ya, it has been difficult. I have dated other women since she left, but none of them make me feel the way she did. Should I call her or leave it be?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Ask yourself this... "Am I willing to be hurt all over again by this woman?" Now if you are 100% willing to take this chance then go ahead and contact her, BUT do not get emotional. if you contact her you should only be trying to reopen the lines of communication between you two.
Author marcus1980 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Sound advice... especially the part about not getting emotional. I'm still ashamed over the way I handled the initial break up and part me thinks that even if I were to get her back, she'd never look at me the same way. I should probably leave it alone.
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