midkirby Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Met with ex bf of 4 weeks to retrieve items after NC for 10 days. We split up because he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. Met at a bar where he finally admitted that his exwife had cheated on him for years. Wanted me to understand why he was hesitant. I tolf him that being with him made me nervous and I felt like I was on a first date. He said being with me made him feel at home. Told me he loved me, hasn't moved on, I was his best friend. He again asked a lot of q's about my last relationship, whereby I was the dumper. I went over that again. When we split he said we moved too fast and other reasosn....so we were discussing the possibility of getting back together and I said we should take it slow and he mentioned me moving in with him. He said he drinks now every night to make time pass. At the end, he gave me my items. I told him that he needs to decide, that I won't pressure himbut that I can't go through a break up again and if he chooses to stay apart....we should go our separate ways. I also said I am not asking for a promise of forever or marriage proposal...unless that is what he is thinking....he said yes that is what he is thinking about. We ended it by him saying, "we are not over." So now what do I do? He still seems unsure about us and is scared. I know for fact he loves me. Should I go NC and if so, for how long?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 sounds like the ball is in his court... Go NC and don't expect him to come back. It sounds harsh but by doing this you can start the healing process just in case, and if he does come back you can be surprised .
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