mishmash Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Hi. I'm really struggling with this today. My boyfriend of 6 months and I have had some issues. He was diagnosed with PTSD in January and we technically split up. We spent a lot of time together and for the last two months have been basically boyfriend and girlfriend again but without the title. We've been acquainted about a year and a half before we started dating and as typical PTSD, it was fast and intense. In the midst of this and him starting his therapy, my radar was up when he would add/talk to other girls on FB. I questioned it a couple of times especially about this one - he had gone to prom with her over ten years ago and he said they were like cousins, then he said she was crazy, and then he said she was going through some stuff, and now they're just friends and she does her own thing since moving back to town from Alaska. My issue is he's blocked me on FB because he said it helps him not get so stressed out if he can have his social life (doesn't have one outside of home, me and his family) but not upset me. He said he'd add me back but he can't be "in" a relationship right now even though we both know we are. He says he never talks to this girl and I felt confident with out conversation about it one night but then I saw an email about him texting her and she didn't know if they were supposed to be mean or nice texts. It was around 4 a.m. so it's frustrating because I know he text her while I was staying there. I want to email her and ask her what her relationship is with him because I don't know if he's being honest with me anymore. I don't want to add stress to his life but I want to make an informed decision. If they are just friends, then why can't she and I just be friends. Feeling very challenged
AlexDP Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Sometimes therapists diagnose BPD's, NPD's with PTSD for a variety of reasons. I'm not saying this is what happened, but perhaps you could look into that as well. This is just too weird, honey.
iJester Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 He's using that bull**** as an excuse. Cut him off unless he wants to be your boyfriend with the title, or stop bitching about him taking advantage of a situation you put yourself in.
Author mishmash Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Sometimes therapists diagnose BPD's, NPD's with PTSD for a variety of reasons. I'm not saying this is what happened, but perhaps you could look into that as well. This is just too weird, honey. Thank you. Tough decision but makes sense.
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