KAD86 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I'm a 25 y/o female who got out of a serious 4 year relationship with the love of my life a little over a year ago. He was my first love, first everything. Met him at 19 and things just took off. We lived together, bought an engagement ring, etc. I had 2 miscarriages while with him too. We broke up for many reasons and I think it is for the best, but I can't let him go. Fast Forward to today. I have been in a new relationship for the past 5 months w a great guy. I feel I gave myself enough time to grieve, went on a few dates with other men, and was ready for a new relationship. My current b/f is fun, stable, and sweet. I really care for him. On the other side, my ex and I have never completely cut off communication. We still talk a few times a month, etc. He is also with a new girl. Well, a few days ago he called to tell me he sold the house we had lived in and, while packing, found a few of my things i'd left behind when i moved out. I went over to pick them up, we reminisced, held each other... and before you know it we'd slept together. Prior to that I was really happy with where I was in my life. I did not expect to lose myself the way I did when I saw him. It's like everything I worked so hard to move on from has resurfaced and I feel like I'm losing him all over again. We've talked since but just about everyday things, not about that night. I just want to know if anyone knows if it's possible to find someone better than a first love? Does anyone think it's possible he and I will get back together? Please help me with some advice and/or personal experiences. Thank you all!
zerovandez Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I think you both need to talk about what happened and where you both want to go. He may not be feeling the urge to move forward with you in terms of a relationship as he's not brought up the subject after you slept with him. Remember most guys think with their head, the OTHER head, so he may just have reacted based on that. You need to find out if you're both wanting to move in the same direction. So talk to him.
coltsfan1 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 you absolutely could end up together, but starting it out with lies and cheating is BAD. For the sake of you boyfriend and his girlfriend you should tell them the truth. What you have done is wrong and if you are a stand up girl you would be honest with yourself and current boyfriend. Cheating is never ok no matter what!!
Mack05 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Kad if a relationship breaks up once, the chances are high it will fail a second time. I went out with a girl for 3 years when I was 22, we broke up for a year and then got back together. We broke up 4 years later, but the relationship was dead long before that. The biggest mistake in my life so far was getting back with her the 2nd time. I too was 25 and lost 4 of the best years of my life... Also, the guy you cheated on, you need to let go. No one deserves to be cheated on, he deserves better..
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Great advice so far, I can't say I disagree with any of it. sit down and have a talk with your ex to see where he stands in this situation. also, talk with your boyfriend about what happened as well unless you want to taint the new relationship. he may forgive you and want to work things out or he will be gone, either way it's the best thing to do.
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