conehead Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Been dating guy for a month. I told him I wish I can see him more, but he only wants to see each other once a week for now. He rarely if ever texts or calls...I feel so needy, clingy and crazy right now!! I wish I had more patience but all my exes wanted to see me MORE than I wanted to see them from the very FIRST day we met....so this guy who wants to see me less is driving me nuts. I regret letting him talk me back into dating him again...i just dont think he is as into me as he claims.... Sorry, just needed to vent.
vsmini Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Been dating guy for a month. I told him I wish I can see him more, but he only wants to see each other once a week for now. He rarely if ever texts or calls...I feel so needy, clingy and crazy right now!! I wish I had more patience but all my exes wanted to see me MORE than I wanted to see them from the very FIRST day we met....so this guy who wants to see me less is driving me nuts. I regret letting him talk me back into dating him again...i just dont think he is as into me as he claims.... Sorry, just needed to vent. Doesn't sound like he's giving you what you want. How long are you willing to stick around, not getting what you want? Maybe by his standards he is "into you" but if it doesn't work out with your standards then maybe you aren't compatible.
Author conehead Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Doesn't sound like he's giving you what you want. How long are you willing to stick around, not getting what you want? Maybe by his standards he is "into you" but if it doesn't work out with your standards then maybe you aren't compatible. Im forcing myself to give it a few more weeks and see how things go...and if it doesnt get any better i guess i'll talk to him about it....but rite now I don't feel too happy about it
tigressA Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Im forcing myself to give it a few more weeks and see how things go...and if it doesnt get any better i guess i'll talk to him about it....but rite now I don't feel too happy about it WTF? Why in the world would you force yourself to go through a few more weeks of something that is not making you happy at all RIGHT NOW?? Why continue giving him the power over this situation? Just tell him that because you like him you would like to see him and hear from him more than you already do and see if he follows through. What you're planning to do now makes no sense and it just wastes time being miserable.
vsmini Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Im forcing myself to give it a few more weeks and see how things go...and if it doesnt get any better i guess i'll talk to him about it....but rite now I don't feel too happy about it Ok - but I've seen girls (including myself) do it a hundred times. Give it a few weeks Talk about it Give it a few more weeks Get more invested and sweep stuff under the rug Talk about it again Give it more time More time more time..... Talk - see the issue get resolved and if not...goodbye. Otherwise you're wasting your time
Author conehead Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Ok - but I've seen girls (including myself) do it a hundred times. Give it a few weeks Talk about it Give it a few more weeks Get more invested and sweep stuff under the rug Talk about it again Give it more time More time more time..... Talk - see the issue get resolved and if not...goodbye. Otherwise you're wasting your time lol nice example. Ok I'm supposed to see him tomorrow....so maybe i'll talk to him like this 'Since we live kinda far from each other and can see each other only once a week, what do you think about us talking more during the week when we dont see each other?'....does that work?
Author conehead Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 One thing is, we're not even in a relationship yet and its not even been a month....will i be asking for too much too soon here?? I'm confused.
vsmini Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 One thing is, we're not even in a relationship yet and its not even been a month....will i be asking for too much too soon here?? I'm confused. I don't know how I overlooked the month part. That is important. Well......it's not an exclusive relationship yet - ask him where he sees it going. do you want to move it into serious territory? now is the time to talk if you do.
smudge21 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 We always want more what we can't have, or at least think we can't have. Back away from him for a while - he doesn't contact, you don't contact. I know that will be hard, but sometimes we have to push things away to see how important they are, and in your case, whether they truly care. The fact that you're doing the chasing is enough for him to take it easy. He may be just as interested as you are, but feels like he doesn't have to do much as you're doing it all. So step back and see what happens. Be a little quiet for a while, don't instantly respond when he gets in touch. Add a little taste of secretive into the mix. I'm sorry to say this, but I've been just the same - when ex's have shown interest I've taken it easy. I still wanted them, but felt I didn't have to do the work, they were doing it all. Opposite end of that is when they don't show that much interest and I go out of my way to make contact. Sadly it's a game we all have to play...
NoReallyThatHappened Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I noticed that you said "into dating him again." What happened the first time that made you two call it quits. If this is truly the second chance and you have the same problems it's time to move on.
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