fool in love

[heartbrokengrrrl2912]

Here is my story.dated for a year and a half.

Knew each other all our lives.

A month ago, we have a little disagreement.

He is a very hot and cold person, moods always changing.He says he will call the next day, but that night of our lil argument I stupidly leave an emotionally fueled voice mail.

I of course don't hear from him.

I call the next day to apologize he doesn't pick up I leave a msg, no reply.

Its been a month of him ignoring me . I did the whole no contact thing for the last 2 wk's, the other 2 wk's b4 that I was a bit needy/clingy im an emotional person and i loved him so I tried hard (to apologize) I called a lot and texted.

i know that's bad and it will push a guy away.

Long story short the last 2 wk's I did NC then I called yesterday I broke down again and he blocked my phone number and deleted my email.

I made a fool of myself yet I'm fool in love.

we had marriage plans.

I don't think he will ever call me again.

I feel so hurt.

[Kazmi]

That's how it feels when you are inlove... You are no fool, many can relate to how you feel and how it is for you. A lot of us made same mistakes and some even more terrible mistakes...

 

You need to forgive yourself and don't let your heart control you.

 

Do not contact him anymore, the fact he runs so actively from you probably says he is hurt or in pain... It doesn't matter, give him space, he obviously wants it.

 

A month is so little time! Especially for strong emotions like love.

 

Don't despair.

Everytime you feel the need to contact try these:

- Write an email for him, everything you want to say. AND DON'T SEND IT.

- Think of what will happen if you contact. Think with you mind and not with your heart.. Imagine the scenario, how he will respond (even no response) you'll understand it's not worth it.

 

Whatever you do stay NC.

 

It's sooo hard, realllly hard.

But the methods above really helped me

 

And understand this: you can't do a thing to make him call or contact you (unless you bug him so much he'll go beresek and you really don't want that to happen), you have no idea what he is going through and what he is thinking...

The only thing that may make him contact is time, when he is over the pain or whatever he is feeling because of your argument.

Give him the space and time to clear his mind.

 

Be strong, I'm sure your heart aches, but patience and NC is your way to heal and also make sure you don't push him further away...

[heartbrokengrrrl2912]

Thanks so much for your input.I am a wreck I think I drove him away.I love him so much.

I don't want to hurt him in any way , I adore him.

He blocked my home number but not my cell phone number?

I miss him and I wish we could go back a month when everything was great.

 

Im so hurt , I cannot stop crying.

It makes me sick to think that maybe the reason that he so easily removed himself from our situation could be the result of maybe him having a new girl in his life.

I have to stop thinking about all these scenarios cause its just doing more harm than good.

I feel so deeply hurt.

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

every "mistake" you said you did is completely normal so don't worry about it. you might have driven him away but you didn't do anything that would drive him away permanently (just don't get your hopes up that he will contact you eventually).

 

maybe him having a new girl in his life.

 

make this your reality... when my ex dumped me I just assumed she had someone else lined up and I also assumed who it was, so when she sent me an IM saying she was seeing someone else later on it didn't hurt me as much because I had already believed she had someone (and it's the person I assumed she would be with).

 

don't expect anything of him and he can't disappoint you. Stay with NC and work on yourself. if he contacts you and wants to reconcile then you get to choose whether you want him back or not. If not you will already be on the road to healing and can move on.