Fiancee Ended 8 Year Relationship After 4 Month Break. Devastated.

[joostay]

My god, 16 years. I'm so sorry, that must have been horrific man. How are you feeling about it all now after 6 months? It's only day 4 for me but nothing has changed, still in the depths. Miss her so much, want to hug her and see if she's OK even though she was the one who finished it with me. We'll obviously have conversations in the future about sorting out the house but it saddens me more than anything that we won't share a laugh, a smile, a conversation about anything fun again. I love and miss her so much.

[dreamscape123]

Jesus. I'm sorry. The pain I'm in now could only be heightened if that exact thing happened. I don't know how you dealt with that.

 

 

Time, my friend, time.... I still hurt like hell, and I still wish it was me with her,and not some other guy... and that all makes me feel rough when i think about it, but time means i can start to focus on other things more easily than i could a few weeks back...I was able to face eating again, sleeping again, etc etc.... but it is hard when i drive past places that i used to go with her... ie our favourite resteraunt, places we used to go for a walk, the zoo ( both of us love animals and used to go quite alot ) and i think... where is this new guy taking her?? Does she just forget about all the great times and laughs that we shared...???? I also still struggle to get my head round that she is actually not here, and why she went... and like you, i miss my ex more than anyone else will understand... But time has made it easier..... Thats all I can say really.....

[mtd4249]

joostay -- I have to admit that after 6months I'm still struggling. I was fully invested in her - she was everything from my partner to my best friend. My circumstance is made worse by the isolation .. I'm in a city where I don't have family and only a couple of friends. We moved here to make a life and eventually a family of our own .... all I have left here is my job really. I have good days and bad days still - some days more than others I still ask "why" and question what could have been if only she didn't go off the rails. Everyone is going to recover in different ways and different times ... I know this will take me well into next year before I see the light. I hope you can recover more quickly.