robertdawson Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Hello, I'm 22, 5'4", male. I haven't ever had a girlfriend although I have gone on a couple casual "dates". Anyway, I am not particularly interested in "romance" but I just want to ask someone to do something just for the hell of it. Although I don't really have confidence concerns, I am hesitant to ask anyone to do anything because: 1) I don't want to be involved in anything serious and fear someone would want it to progress 2) I have this odd fear that I won't like the person I ask and that I won't know how to tactfully not do anything with them again (yeah, it doesn't make much sense to be worried about this before being worried about them saying yes)
Author robertdawson Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 Does anyone have any useful suggestions?
spiderowl Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Stick to going out with girls as friends until you do feel you want to take it further with someone. It's understandable you don't want to make a bigger commitment than just seeing how you get on. I think it would be reasonable to say to a girl that you like them and would like to get to know them a bit better. That sounds friendly but fairly non-committal. If a girl asks what you are looking for, you could tell her that you're not sure at the moment but you like her and would like to spend more time with her. It's really important not to lead someone on into thinking you are looking for a serious relationship when you aren't. If you do go out with someone and find you don't want to develop a relationship, then it's best to just say you had a good time but you want to keep it casual as you're not feeling attached to anyone at the moment.
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