amergirl_08 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 A few weeks ago I started seeing this man, we had two really great dates on consecutive Saturdays. He was calling and texting me several times a day, seemingly really into me. The following weekend he contacted me on Friday and asked me to come to his city to see him, an hour away, on Saturday. I agreed, but the next day he seemed different towards me but I went anyway and things were a little awkward. The next day I texted him and he didn't answer so after a few hours I texted again, he answered and we had a conversation but things were friendly not flirty. The same thing happened the next day so I told him he didn't have to take me to a concert later in the week that he had asked me to on date 2, if he did feel differently. He admitted he was thinking about things, that we were very different but then different was good and that he felt people should have chemistry in the first few dates, which we did???? He said he didn't want to push things on the last date not knowing. It's been almost 2 weeks now and other than a brief friendly text I sent a few days later about something I saw that we had talked about, I haven't heard from him. I'm not sure how someone changes their minds in 12 hours, but he seemed on the fence. I am a reserved person so I kind of think he my have perceived me as not as interested as him maybe? I don't know, I really liked him. Should I try to contact him or just move on?
scarlett27 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I am a firm beliver if someone is keen - they will chase - trust me leave it - he is not breaking himself in contacting you - leave him , if he is worth it he will come back , if not - you have your dignity in tact xx
Author amergirl_08 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 For the most part I completely agree, but what if he took me giving him an out to the concert as the final sign that I wasn't interested, that I was trying to get out of it. The whole thing ended strangely, it kind of ended with me joking that I don't understand men and he countered with woman are harder. He hasn't unfriended me on facebook, although he seems to be mia. I don't know, part of me says to contact him and just say hi or something and test the water but then the other part of me says I shouldn't. I really don't want to come off as crazy.
scarlett27 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 is city to see him, an hour away, on Saturday. I agreed, but the next day he seemed different towards me but I went anyway and things were a little awkward. The next day I texted him and he didn't answer so after a few hours I texted again, he answered and we had a conversation but things were friendly not flirty. The this is what u said happened BEFORE u said the thing about theconcert , hello he has unfriended u on fb > look he dont have the guts to say it but i dont think he is very interestd at all , when a mans interested u know about it , u will meet someone better
Author amergirl_08 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 No he hasn't unfriended me, we are still friends on there.
scarlett27 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 apologies i thought he had , i still dont think it looks great just wait and see but i would not text again he knows where u are he has ur number
Lucky555 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Well just send him a fb message. Tell him you had sent him a few texts and realize he is too busy or not interested enough to answer. Thensay I hope everything is going well for you. I thought you would have indicated if you wanted to continue getting to know each other you would have said somthing but taking th silence as a sign your not interested and I won't be wasting my time anymore.
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