terminus1256 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I know most people think the idea of breaks are bad, but here's the whole story. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a little over a year now, and we've had our fair share of bumps in the road. There was an instance three months ago where I got way too drunk than I should've been and accidentally kissed another girl. She got pissed about this (understandably), and I was very apologetic and sad about the whole event because I still my girlfriend. After not speaking for about two weeks we ran into each other at a bus stop at our college and started talking again. Things went well and eventually we started dating again. However, the past two weeks, we had a few arguments regarding a male friend of hers, and the last one seemed to have put her over the edge. She told me that she just wanted to be friends, but she still loved me and after some time wanted to get back together. I was very confused by this, and after asking her for some clarification, she said we were basically on a break. But we still talk, hang out, and tell each other that we love one another and write letters and such. We both keep saying how we miss each other and can't wait until the break is over. The part that is really confusing me is, even though she says she loves me, and misses me, and can't wait until our break is over, every time I bring up our situation she remains adamant that we should keep up our break. I don't get this. What is she doing? Is this going to work?
Author terminus1256 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Just more info.... She's convinced that this break is going to make our relationship stronger. I'm convinced it won't. It's already making me upset and angry. I love her, though, and want it to work out. Should I just be honest and tell her that it's not working?
Bito Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 From what it sounds like she is stringing you along. You need to present her with a choice to either be with you or not be with you.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 From what it sounds like she is stringing you along. You need to present her with a choice to either be with you or not be with you. It does sound like she is stringing you along, I would either give her the choice to be with you or not like Bito mentioned or at least have a talk about the boundaries of the "break" such as: is it ok to see other people? casual flirting ok? when is the break officially over?(make sure there is a solid date set).
TearyEyedPride Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Like. HOP said, please make sure your break has a date. Otherwise, she's using you to get over you. You're serving as her support while she gets used to you just being a "great friend" she loves, but is not in love with anymore.
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