larry121 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 hey all larry here, just wanting to get a few people opinions here. why would my ex tell me she is seeing someone? did she do the right thing or not. Larry. also she is in a relationship with him yet they moved in together like 2 months into the relationship but she doesn't have pics together on facebook. yet keeps pics of us
coltsfan1 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 More info on the break up would be nice, but here is my advice. larry i went through a similar situation. My honest advice is going to hurt but was true in my case. She wants to control you and if you wore it like i did she is getting that. She has found your replacement and you should replace her. She is giving him what was once yours and i am sure you are falling apart. My ex crushed me!! totally broke my heart and made me reevaluate my entire life. But I looked in the mirror and learned to live with my regrets, her terrible choices and push forward. She probably hasn't truly dealt with the end of the relationship, but if she is proud, stubborn, and easily justifies things in her head be prepared for this to continue to last. You have 2 choices!!! 1. fight fire with fire and find the hottest girl around and rub her face in it. 2. grieve the loss, look like a fool for a short while and use it to become a better man. (this is what i did although I now wish i would have fought fire with fire. I wasn't strong enough to fake it at first)
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 why would my ex tell me she is seeing someone? did she do the right thing or not. several reasons: 1.) they aren't over you. 2.) they want to hurt you. 3.) they want to see how you respond (see if it bothers you, you are still strung up on them). 4.) it's their way of closure. did she do the right thing? could have... for some people knowing that their ex is in a relationship kind of forces them to accept that the relationship is over and move on. for the others well... it just makes them want their ex even more.
eddysv Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 hey all larry here, just wanting to get a few people opinions here. why would my ex tell me she is seeing someone? did she do the right thing or not. Larry. also she is in a relationship with him yet they moved in together like 2 months into the relationship but she doesn't have pics together on facebook. yet keeps pics of us Hey Larry, Yea I would need a little more info to give you a complete opinion but from what you said... ...to me it sounds like she is not worth it...especially if she already moved in with the other guy after only 2 months...you definitely do not need a girl like that back in your life and if I was you..I would rather go find a hotter girl and no need for rubbing it in your ex's face because it's best if you forget about her completely...you'll find a better girl...you'll see... Let me know what you do ok? Your friend, Eddys Velasquez
wilsonx Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 \ You have 2 choices!!! 1. fight fire with fire and find the hottest girl around and rub her face in it. 2. grieve the loss, look like a fool for a short while and use it to become a better man. (this is what i did although I now wish i would have fought fire with fire. I wasn't strong enough to fake it at first) Actually this is wrong. You have one choice. You need to make yourself a better person. You need to move beyond your ex and live your life and not in the past. BLOCK HER FROM FACEBOOK. I will tell you a secret and you can ask probably any female on here. If a girl breaks up with a guy, the guy initiates no contact, betters themself and moves on with their life and is happier without them, it will eat them inside out if they are trying to play these spiteful games. Thats why you see posts all every now and then if the dumper (female) should contact the dumpee. They are curious if their ex is doing better then them.
eddysv Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Actually this is wrong. You have one choice. You need to make yourself a better person. You need to move beyond your ex and live your life and not in the past. BLOCK HER FROM FACEBOOK. I will tell you a secret and you can ask probably any female on here. If a girl breaks up with a guy, the guy initiates no contact, betters themself and moves on with their life and is happier without them, it will eat them inside out if they are trying to play these spiteful games. Thats why you see posts all every now and then if the dumper (female) should contact the dumpee. They are curious if their ex is doing better then them. You are exactly right!
Author larry121 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 wow this has been great , thankyou for everyone responses. also another question also. she said she would say goodbye to me but she didn't come round to say goodbye cause she went to another state to be go home then to the state where the guy lives to be with him as far as im concerned im doing 500 times better without her! i hope she knows this cause big things are happening here! i had the option of being with someone just shortly before but declined cause im moving interstate for work focusing on my career paying off my house and to live the dream L.
Author larry121 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 also when she told me she had to be honest and tell me (i knew before she told me) anyway i said to her i was happy for her and wished her all the best and said we had some good times together, what would have she been thinking to that response?
wilsonx Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 stop talking to her larry, shes just playing mindgames with you. trust me just stop. see you are confused and trying to get answers to questions that are there to string you along. You be the person to just end it and move on and never talk to her again. You do not need to say goodbye (thats a game by her to keep you around in the picture). Just stop talking to her
eddysv Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 also when she told me she had to be honest and tell me (i knew before she told me) anyway i said to her i was happy for her and wished her all the best and said we had some good times together, what would have she been thinking to that response? I didn't exactly get your question....but I think you meant what was she thinking when you said "I'm happy for you and wish you the best..." right? If that was your question (sorry if it isn't lol) then I think it might have bothered her that you were alright with it but it's not something to stress about... I advise you completely forget about her larry...totally I mean...since you're better off without her now and about to go live the dream then start focusing on bigger and better things bro...your life will get more fund and interesting from here on I promise!
coltsfan1 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 gents, I was encouraging him to move on. I just gave him two choices, i choose to do the humbling thing. I have never been more let down and humbled in my life. But I wish I would have strong enough to fight fire with fire. Just for my ego.
Author larry121 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 obviously she wasn't happy with something she sold everything! to go over there to be with him, she just took whatever she could have put in her car. as far as im concerned im the winner if anything! single life rocks!! L
eddysv Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 obviously she wasn't happy with something she sold everything! to go over there to be with him, she just took whatever she could have put in her car. as far as im concerned im the winner if anything! single life rocks!! L There you go! Enjoy
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