inglorious Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Been seeing this girl for best part of 3 months. We seem to really enjoy being in each others company. We quickly became physically very close, with lots of warm and loving intimacy. we are both in our 40's. We see each other 1-2 evenings in the week and stay over with each other on the Sat night and enjoy the whole Sunday together. It's like we cannot get enough of each other and it's as fresh now as it was on day one. Having said that, in classic 'too good to be true' sense, there is one thing that's come up which I don't know what to make of. It may be nothing.. or it may be something.. and I hope you can help me figure that out. Although she holds nothing back from me with her physical expression of loving / caring tenderness, even tells me that no one has ever made her feel this way, on the very rare occasion (only twice) that I have enquired about what that is, and how she feels about us.. she clams up and the vibe gets very awkward and completely out of whack with how we are 99.9% of the time. It's not my intention to fish, but I guess I'm just looking for some acknowledgement that we are on the same page about what we're doing, and where we might be going. Is this reasonable? I have to confess that I have blurted out the "I love you" line a couple of times recently. It gets so emotionally intense sometimes when shes holding me tight.. caressing my face, looking deep into my eyes.. her face, an angelic expression of compassion, that I can't help it.. I just get overwhelmed and it comes out of my mouth. :-o When I say it, she lights up and kisses me. I did reassure her that what I say is just my 1-way expression to her and that I dont want her to feel obligated to respond or reciprocate. (To me, they are only words, and although I don't use them lightly.. they do mean different things to different people). She told me that she was comfortable with me saying it and happy that I felt that way. I've shared that because I want to be clear that I'm not seeking any specific response or validation of anything I have expressed to her, I'm just trying to get a gauge on how she feels about me / us.. whatever that may be. Is it normal for some people to just live / act out their feelings like she does.. and shy away from acknowledging them? or would you find that odd. I'm really not trying to nit-pick here. It's just that given how intense and free flowing our emotional interaction is, I've been falling quite hard because it seemed so natural and in-escapable with signals from her seeming to yell out that she in the same place as me. As a result, I have to admit I was a bit shaken and taken aback when we stumbled over this.
Author inglorious Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 I guess from the lack of response this is a non-issue. Thanks all.
rafallus Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Yes. You're overanalyzing it. Keep doing what you're doing, and as long as she keeps hanging around you, you have all acknowledgement you need.
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