Rello55 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Well i had a talk with my ex girlfriend last night because i wanted to know how she felt about me is has a new guy but texts or calls me evry other day even gets mad if i dont respond to any of them please read one of my posts you will better understand http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t282854/ after you read that you should understand better well last night the talk we had wasnt going well i know she misses me and has feelings for me but she was denying and trying to find any excuse to get around on how she acts like when she thought about coming over my house and our date etc it got to the point where i even assumed she was single based on how she was talking to me!! i finally had enough of all of the stunting and lying about how she feels about me like she is just trying to prove me wrong and trying to get around how she acts just because she is in a relationship i ended communication with her for good or at least till she wises up is that the right thing to do? also she does miss me and her feelings for me are resurfacing so it isnt like i had things confused check my other posts out on my profile
Kilty Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Hi From your other posts you have been given great advice. If you want to be over this girl then total no contact is the only way to go. That means - not contacting her and not responding to her - unless she tells you she wants to get back with you then you take it from there. I also do not think you are "over" this girl and i doubt deep down you are "giving up on her" as you wouldnt be mentioning it as much. Firstly - if you go no contact as above then you wont get into situations where you are analysing and wondering what is going on in her mind and therefore will not be confused. Secondly - NEVER make assumptions about what is going on in someone's mind particularly that your ex is missing you. Always try and look at the facts She is with someone else right ? If she was in any doubt and wanted you, and you alone, back she would say so - and then you can come to that conclusion. So to repeat - If you want it over with this girl you know the solution. Alternatively , if you are wanting a reconciliation and/or pissed off at her giving you breadcrumbs whilst she is with someone else then tell her that it must stop and once again break all contact
Author Rello55 Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Alternatively , if you are wanting a reconciliation and/or pissed off at her giving you breadcrumbs whilst she is with someone else then tell her that it must stop and once again break all contact thats what i decided to do last night i had enough it is time for me to get over her and i didnt assume she missed me she told me once i asked a few weeks back so yes its all NC from here but i know she will be thinking about me and wanting to text me a week from now thats how the cycle is i go NC for a while then she pulls me back but im not letting it happen this time
Kilty Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 thats what i decided to do last night i had enough it is time for me to get over her and i didnt assume she missed me she told me once i asked a few weeks back so yes its all NC from here but i know she will be thinking about me and wanting to text me a week from now thats how the cycle is i go NC for a while then she pulls me back but im not letting it happen this time Good - you must stick to it. And not everyone means what they say. Think about it - if she missed you that much she would be doing everything in her power to get back with you.
Author Rello55 Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Good - you must stick to it. And not everyone means what they say. Think about it - if she missed you that much she would be doing everything in her power to get back with you. Thats true too but from reading my past posts its kinda hard to say that she knows what she is doing because she doesnt i know i wouldnt do anything with my ex like she was willing to do with me thats if i was in a relationship but i believe she does she just cant handle situations at all i know her too well i know she is thats another reason its hard for both of us to stop talking to each other we grow up together we know each other very well its hard like that
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