DoubleRainbow Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 This guy and I are co-workers(both single, same age), same department. He started giving me signals 5-6 months back, the affection in his eyes cannot be misinterpretted, he did everything possible( non-verbal, and (indirect verbal) to make me understand that he was interested in me. My guards were up initially(due to personal losses,I did not date/consider someone for past 9 years) but then I started liking him, too. Gradually, I developed feelings for him, got emotionally attached to him. He did see and acknowldge this change. We had not really dated, yet. Then, the unexpected happened. He shut down completely on me, stopped talking to me, started ignoring me. I did try to ask but did not get a concrete answer. I so want him back...things back to normal, but apparently he does not know what he wants.I was and am obviously very hurt. But then I cannot impose myself on him. As a result of his changed attitude, I am very confused, I keep thinking about him, miss him a lot.I cant eat/sleep right. Its been 2 weeks that he is out for a 2-month out-of-state assignment. After his return, we have been asked to work on a project together, with another colleague. This will be a big emotional torture for me. I don't know how to react so that it does not make a gossip about us, I am still cordial and my feelings are not hurt. Please help!!!
richard9 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 since you were not dating he may not have considered it a relationship in the way you did, there are a number of possibilities, perhaps he had personal problems so shut down because of them, or perhaps like you he put his guard up but at a later stage of the friendship / relationship. what drew him to you in the first place is still there, i think you need to focus on how you were with him at the start and continue to act like that, regardless as to wether he is ignoring you or not. just be happy, care free and confident, if you dont feel it then try to act it. he did let you down, but i suspect he doesnt even realise this :-( try to stay strong and independant of him, that way you dont alienate him, because he may not realise how strongly you feel and may be suprised at your feelings as you had not yet dated. try to branch out and make new friends, that way he doesnt feel like you depend on him. try take care of yourself, eat and sleep the best you can, try to think the more you take care of yourself the more he will repect that, and you will feel better about yourself also hope this helped
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