Just txt my ex to return my things by next week at the latest

[Mack05]

Aside from getting my items back, I have never ever contacted her. And yes, I am WAY too good for her.

 

One of the last things I said to her what the following:

 

Me: "You will never find anyone as good as me"

Her: "How do you know? How can you be so sure?"

Me: "Because I know myself..."

 

Time will prove me right, but by then it will be too late for her

 

Jason you seem like a good guy BUT you can't say that to a girl. "You will never find anyone as good as me". You will both find partners not 'better' (so to speak) for you in future, but more suited and compatible. What seems right for you, may not be right for her. That statement will just justify more in her mind that you are not right together and you can imagine what her friends will say to her when they hear that..

 

You asking for your stuff back is just away for you to break NC. I posted this on another thread as just one of the reasons people use to break NC..No good can come of getting your stuff back. It's just set you back on your recovery. Was a scarf really worth that?. As for the money let that go mate..

 

5) I just need to give this stuff back...People become very creative in finding ways to stay in contact with their exe's. One of the most innocent ploys you hear about is when one person insists on retrieving something - a piece of clothing, a household item that belongs to him or her. Think about how important the item really is. If you need to return it, put it in a box and mail it. No note, no nothing. If you are the one who wants it, think about it. Is it worth more than your sanity?Probably not. Making a clean break is important, so clear up loose ends immediately. Avoid keeping anything or leaving anything that can be asked for later on. If you still have things return them. If there are things you have left behind ask for them once more (if its important to you) otherwise forget it and move on.

Edited June 27, 2011 by Mack05

[JasonRules]

Jason you seem like a good guy BUT you can't say that to a girl. "You will never find anyone as good as me". You will both find partners not 'better' (so to speak) for you in future, but more suited and compatible. What seems right for you, may not be right for her. That statement will just justify more in her mind that you are not right together and you can imagine what her friends will say to her when they hear that..

 

You asking for your stuff back is just away for you to break NC. I posted this on another thread as just one of the reasons people use to break NC..No good can come of getting your stuff back. It's just set you back on your recovery. Was a scarf really worth that?. As for the money let that go mate..

 

5) I just need to give this stuff back...People become very creative in finding ways to stay in contact with their exe's. One of the most innocent ploys you hear about is when one person insists on retrieving something - a piece of clothing, a household item that belongs to him or her. Think about how important the item really is. If you need to return it, put it in a box and mail it. No note, no nothing. If you are the one who wants it, think about it. Is it worth more than your sanity?Probably not. Making a clean break is important, so clear up loose ends immediately. Avoid keeping anything or leaving anything that can be asked for later on. If you still have things return them. If there are things you have left behind ask for them once more (if its important to you) otherwise forget it and move on.

 

 

Mack,

 

 

$660 is not a small sum for me to just forget about. It's a substantial amount. Secondly, I never asked to see her. She can always mail me everything or we have a ton of common friends, she can just give everything too (check + items) and tell them to give it to me.

 

I am not using the items as a way to break NC and see her. If I wanted to see her all I have to do is go to the cafe she works at, which my friend owns and see her, but I have not done that despite my friends complaining that we never hang out anymore etc etc.

 

My friend's wife, who likes me a lot and thinks highly of me, text me last week asking me to come back to the cafe because they all miss me and that I should be friend's with my ex (worst case scenario). Did I use this as an excuse? No, I simply thanked her for thinking of me, but told her I will not be coming because I can never be friends with her or see her as it would set me back.

 

So this notion that I'm somehow using my stuff as an excuse to see her is not accurate. I can see her anytime I want, but I haven't.

 

The onus is on her to do the right thing and be decent. She was stringing me along since the beginning of December all the way until March when I pulled the plug. She spent $1000 dollars to buy a dog and $1000 dollars to go on holiday to Puerto Rico. Since March it's been almost 4 months and almost 8 months since December.

 

If she had any thread of decency she would have payed me back, returned my things, and that would had been it. End of story and there would be absolutely no need for any contact. As I mentioned earlier I have not contacted her at all for any other reason than to get my things and money back.