TheLawmaker Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I admit, I have been negative, and I have trolled a bit. However, I need to put back together my life, and the easiest way to do that is to be positive and have a clear perspective on what needs to be fixed. With that being stated, here are my goals for 2011: Become positive! No longer wallow in negativity at being almost 30 and having never kissed or had sex. I certainly won't get a girl with that attitude, so my goal is to learn from you guys all about relationships, and stop wallowing in the negativity.If there's a negative thread on here, just don't post in it! If there are users who need to be ignored, they will be ignored. I don't need to flame anybody to feel superior, so if others feel the need to attack, I don't need to be one of them.Try to understand the other person's perspective. Before I've called women who won't date virgins, as shallow. Maybe I should try to understand where they're coming from, before I attack them?Work on improving my life. Get a job, get another apartment, get a car, etc. Stop saying that these things are holding me back, because if they are, I'm the one who's in control of changing them! Not anybody else.Start a blog on here chronicling my improvements. Also, receive feedback from others, and don't take it negatively. Yeah sure, I may be a late bloomer in many ways, but that's no reason to call myself a loser. Any further suggestions would be helpful.
tman666 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Great job making the decision to improve yourself! Keep in mind that Rome wasn't built in a day, but it would've never existed if if weren't for the daily battles and progressions. When you get knocked down in your journey, get up, dust yourself on, and keep going. Good luck!
tb24 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Add: Go out more. When I was 20 I was a recluse. Throughout the year, I was living with my parents and left the house to go to university and nothing else. Getting out more helps. A lot.
cerridwen Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Lawmaker, you posted before about wanting to exercise. Would that fall under your #4? It will really help your state of mind. It certainly does mine!
Ross MwcFan Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) Cool, looks like we're in similar situations. Maybe our topics can inspire each each other. Looking forward to your updates. Here's a suggestion which I find is helping me. A couple of months back I downloaded a lot of self help and hypnosis mp3's, they're all mainly about getting the kind of life you want, improving confidence, beating shyness, being more positive, goal setting, attracting more of what you want into your life, etc. There's even ones for dating too, which I've not really tried yet. I have found that they do actually seem to be working, I think they have played a big part my recent change, from being defeatist, negative, and less confident, to becoming more positive, a fighter, more confident, and to actually be seeing some success. Also keep in mind, that if anything makes you feel anxious/uncomfortable, even if you find you sometimes make a fool of yourself/make mistakes in these situations at first (and the anxiety can actually make it more likely for these things to happen), if you stick at it, eventually, you will not feel anxious/uncomfortable in that situation anymore, you wont make stupid mistakes, and the situation will just basically be normal for you. Good names to look out for as far as the mp3's are concerned are, Paul McKenna, Anthony Robbins, and Wendi Friesen. Edited June 24, 2011 by Ross MwcFan
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