FeelingSmall Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 My best friend is seeing a guy that is treating her like absolute garbage... He tells her she's fat on a regular basis. Tells her he doesn't enjoy sex with her (Though from what she tells me they have sex regularly) He lies constantly. Lives with some woman who he IS sleeping with. He tells her he's not sleeping with her, however whenever she goes over to his place this OW is obviously pissed off and really bent out of shape about her... There's so much wrong with the picture that it makes me want to physically shake her. It would take hours to explain.. I have spent the last few months trying to get her to see what's going on, but she won't listen. She wants to tell me all about the horrible things he does to her, but she doesn't want to hear about what a douche he is, or how much better she can do. She went from an amazing guy who I just adored. He treated her like a bloody queen, did so much for her it made me sick. She just ended it, threw it away like yesterdays trash and found this rat. Now she seems hopelessly addicted to him. She still gets hit on all the time by guys. She's probably the most fun girl I've ever met, I love her to pieces... I'm just watching her spiral out and she will not listen to anything I have to say. I'm banging my head against the wall every time we talk. People have to make their own mistakes, I get that, but I'm having a hard time standing around waiting for her to either be completely broken, or find out he's given her something nasty. I don't know what to do. I've tried everything I can think of. It's killing me.
utterer of lies Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Whenever you tell her how bad he is for her, you are pushing her to defend him. You rather take his side. Make excuses for him, so she'll attack them and hopefully realize something. Any attempt by you to show her his true colors will only push her towards him.
Author FeelingSmall Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 The idea of taking his side makes me want to vomit, but I see the logic in it... Reverse psychology, ok so I haven't tried EVERYTHING.
vsmini Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Bottom line - she's allowing this guy to treat her this way. That's her choice. You need to tell her that you don't want to hear about it anymore. Why would she bother complaining and sticking around at the same time? WHILE telling you all about it? because she must love the drama. ^tell her exactly that and it should shut her up.
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