DreamerGirl27 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 while for some reason, gets attacked on the boards, it's gotten me 3 or 4 marriage proposals on here, a friend trying to hook me up with another guy who's looking for a "good girl" and another guy messaging me on here, wanting to get to know me as in, interested in dating me (it'd be long distance obviously) and stating that he didn't think girls like me existed anymore. Welp, they do. I think I'll stick with being the good, Christian girl, looking for love a little while longer. It's gotten me mega popular with the guys on here.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Oh yeah, it gets me hit on in real life, too. All I gotta do is show up to a show and wear a gigantic cross necklace and the guys are falling at my feet.
Ms. Joolie Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Good update! Glad you got through the "I Don't Have Sex Before Marriage" and made it sound hott instead. Next topic to turnaround is "I Don't Believe In Birth Control."
Ross MwcFan Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Oh yeah, it gets me hit on in real life, too. All I gotta do is show up to a show and wear a gigantic cross necklace and the guys are falling at my feet. Sorry, but that just really made me laugh for some reason.
thehead Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 while for some reason, gets attacked on the boards, it's gotten me 3 or 4 marriage proposals on here, a friend trying to hook me up with another guy who's looking for a "good girl" and another guy messaging me on here, wanting to get to know me as in, interested in dating me (it'd be long distance obviously) and stating that he didn't think girls like me existed anymore. Welp, they do. I think I'll stick with being the good, Christian girl, looking for love a little while longer. It's gotten me mega popular with the guys on here. LOL...You seriously underestimate the intelligence of LSers reading this. Why do this? Just stand firm in your beliefs. Don't make up stories to "prove" you're "right" or desirable. Sorry but damn. Not well played.
Tayla Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 This is some serious trolling! I'm impressed! Dreamgrl is not trolling, she has been contributing and has been a member here for awhile giving updates on her vision of herself and relations. You are welcome to read her posts. A wee bit egocentric , yet its part of who she is at this stage of her growing years.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Dreamgrl is not trolling, she has been contributing and has been a member here for awhile giving updates on her vision of herself and relations. You are welcome to read her posts. A wee bit egocentric , yet its part of who she is at this stage of her growing years. Um, thanks? I think...you're right. I am not trolling.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 um, since when did I say I hate sex. I love sex. Which is why I believe in abstinence. Sex within marriage is the healthiest, most awesome and rewarding way to have sex. I wouldn't want anything less for myself.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Being a conservative Christian doesn't mean you don't love sex. In fact it probably means you love sex more than the rest of the world, because I don't cheapen it for myself.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 Good update! Glad you got through the "I Don't Have Sex Before Marriage" and made it sound hott instead. Next topic to turnaround is "I Don't Believe In Birth Control." Oh I definitely believe in birth control. I won't use condoms though. What fun is that? Which is why I will wait for a man I love enough to not want to use them and if I'm not using them and there is a higher chance of pregnancy, obviously I should be married to him in case I happen to get pregnant. Things like health insurance, security, financial stuff...you have a responsibility to a person once you sleep with them. Also, he would have to get tested first. Why go through all that hassle for someone you're not completely in love with and plan on marrying? It all is very logical. I don't see the need for all the harsh words. I'm just being logical about life.
Floridaman Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 (edited) Originally Posted by DreamerGirl27 while for some reason, gets attacked on the boards, it's gotten me -3 or 4 marriage proposals on here, -a friend trying to hook me up with another guy who's looking for a "good girl" and -another guy messaging me on here, wanting to get to know me as in, interested in dating me (it'd be long distance obviously) and stating that he didn't think girls like me existed anymore. Welp, they do. I think I'll stick with being the good, Christian girl, looking for love a little while longer. It's gotten me mega popular with the guys on here. LOL...You seriously underestimate the intelligence of LSers reading this. Why do this? Just stand firm in your beliefs. Don't make up stories to "prove" you're "right" or desirable. Sorry but damn. Not well played. She's not making things up. I was one of those who PM'd her about one of those topics... Didn't ask her to marry me nor ask her for a date... TBH, if I was younger and single and knew her in real life (not only on a msg. board) -- I'd ask her out... ... And that would be a gamble .... a BIG "if" .... as many women (not all !! ) turned me down when I was in my 20s.... So I know what these shy guys go through and the pain of rejection.. (topic of other threads...) I love sex. Which is why I believe in abstinence. Sex within marriage is the healthiest, most awesome and rewarding way to have sex. I wouldn't want anything less for myself. Have no problem with her views on "waiting" for the right one.... Wasn't a virgin ( lost mine at 17... which I really regret... wayyyyyyy too early ) but only had sex 3-4X in HS and twice through all of my 20s..... My 30s were a diff. matter, but it was monogomous and committed LM with my future fiance.... Me respects those who wait for religious or other reasons... Edited June 24, 2011 by Floridaman
snug.bunny Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I think making a choice to remain abstinent, is positive. What I am confused by, is the statement "I'm a good Christian girl", only because you stated in another thread: "It has nothing to do with my religion. In fact, I hate church and refuse to go". It might be helpful for you to determine which of the two, is of most importance to you and for the man you choose to become involved with if/when you cross that bridge (i.e. "abstinence based on non-religious views" or "abstinence based on religious views").
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 I think making a choice to remain abstinent, is positive. What I am confused by, is the statement "I'm a good Christian girl", only because you stated in another thread: "It has nothing to do with my religion. In fact, I hate church and refuse to go". It might be helpful for you to determine which of the two, is of most importance to you and for the man you choose to become involved with if/when you cross that bridge (i.e. "abstinence based on non-religious views" or "abstinence based on religious views"). I already answered that in the same thread. Believing in God has nothing to do with religion. You can believe in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit and never step foot into a church your entire life. A relationship with God is not about religion. That's just ritual. and besides...everyone's a bit of "sweet tart". I want to find my other "sweet tart". I'm a good Christian girl, but I have my weaknesses and downfalls as does everyone else. I'm also not afraid to admit it. What I meant to make that other thread about was, "abstinence EDUCATION should be enforced more" as well as more conservative views and Christians taking back their country. Too many liberals are taking over it because it's the "cool" thing to do. It is not cool by any means. I choose abstinence for many religious and many logical, sensible reasons. It's both religious and just being flat out, plain and simple...really smart about your life. You only got one of it. Choose what you do with it wisely.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 25, 2011 Author Posted June 25, 2011 Church is also for fellowship. It's partially to be social with other believers. It is not required that you go to church to be considered a Christian. God will not hold it against you if you don't.
Floridaman Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 (edited) you try to force your views on others and you have a "holier than you" attitude, thats why you get attacked. She's not "forcing" her views on anyone. You don't have to read them or agree with them.... I think making a choice to remain abstinent, is positive. What I am confused by, is the statement "I'm a good Christian girl", only because you stated in another thread: "It has nothing to do with my religion. In fact, I hate church and refuse to go". It might be helpful for you to determine which of the two, is of most importance to you and for the man you choose to become involved with if/when you cross that bridge (i.e. "abstinence based on non-religious views" or "abstinence based on religious views"). I think she means she's trying to adhere to her religious views as a Christian. While many wouldn't encourage others to get sexually involved with someone before marriage or engagement, even "good" Christian guys and gals find themselves sexually involved.... Sexual desire is a strong force and one that's hard to overcome..... esp. when someone gets into their 30s and thinks they've "missed out" on some things in life... While I wasn't a virgin in my 20s.... I lived like one and had very limited sexual experience as I posted. I didn't want to marry someone with lots of experience. Still, if I really loved the woman, I could get past that.. Her past is like another world and shouldn't have an bearing on the present... Would have been happy with someone who had "lmited" experience... a never-married woman who maybe had one or two sexual experiences, but wasn't promiscuous... similar to my background. That's the kind of woman I ultimately found at 30... she only had one partner who she had sex with after engagement.... Me thinks the OP is understanding on this and realizes the later you get in life, the less likely someone could find someone without some kind of past... Edited June 25, 2011 by Floridaman
snug.bunny Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I think she means she's trying to adhere to her religious views as a Christian. Yes, I have gathered that. But, if I understand correctly, Christians adhere to abstinence because they do not believe in sex outside of marriage. The statement I read by the OP, stating that remaining abstinent has nothing to do with her religion, was confusing is all. If someone claims to be a "good Christian", in the purest form, shouldn't their religion be the driving force? Or is it "I am remaining abstinent because I want to be a good Christian". I'm not sure...so that's why I inquired.
snug.bunny Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Sexual desire is a strong force and one that's hard to overcome..... esp. when someone gets into their 30s and thinks they've "missed out" on some things in life... I'm not sure what being in your 30's has to do with anything, or "especially"... I am fairly certain there are plenty of 20 year old male and females, who are "non-Christian purists", who experiment sexually, if not more.
Floridaman Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Originally Posted by Floridaman I think she means she's trying to adhere to her religious views as a Christian. While many wouldn't encourage others to get sexually involved with someone before marriage or engagement, even "good" Christian guys and gals find themselves sexually involved.... Sexual desire is a strong force and one that's hard to overcome..... esp. when someone gets into their 30s and thinks they've "missed out" on some things in life... Yes, I have gathered that. But, if I understand correctly, Christians adhere to abstinence because they do not believe in sex outside of marriage. The statement I read by the OP, stating that remaining abstinent has nothing to do with her religion, was confusing is all. If someone claims to be a "good Christian", in the purest form, shouldn't their religion be the driving force? Or is it "I am remaining abstinent because I want to be a good Christian". I'm not sure...so that's why I inquired. That is a valid question. Some of the OP's comments seem contradictory. She wants to be a "good Christian girl" yet says she doesn't like church. She's explained that now. Originally Posted by DreamerGirl27 -a friend trying to hook me up with another guy who's looking for a "good girl" The guy I tried to set her up with... a 25 y.o. virgin who seems like a "good guy." Told him this woman was a "nice" girl who likely wouldn't play games with her. Yet she doesn't seem to want that kind of guy... Still, she considers herself a "good Christian girl..." So I get the confusion here. I'm not sure what being in your 30's has to do with anything, or "especially"... Meant only... the sex drive is strong. Religious faith is only a part of one's life.... If someone feels they're "missing out" on things (i.e. getting into their 30s and never engaged, as I was...), they may overlook such religious strictures on not engaging in sex outside of marriage... Christians are human too and no less susceptible to temptation and sexual feelings... It's one thing to have sex in a committed relationship with a long-term partner or fiance... but another to "sleep around..." with everyone you date... Have had conversations in PMs with women on this and other boards who've had numerous sexual relationshps before marriage... including one living (and having sex with) with her fiance --- yet say they're women of faith. The one living with her fiance is active in a church group and advises young couples, quotes Scripture in her posts about the blessings of Christian marriage, etc. Asked her how she squared her actions with her faith. It was the committed, monogomous relationship, they both believe and follow scriptures and how she feels "married" to him already... Also told me they both acknowledge they're still sinners.... So I know where your question comes from... I am fairly certain there are plenty of 20 year old male and females, who are "non-Christian purists", who experiment sexually, if not more. Of course. There are many moral people who don't adhere to a particular religious belief. Realize some of us get into some pretty heated debates/ posts when the touchy subject of religion comes up. Recall a recent thread where a male poster said he wondered what it woudl be like to nail this woman he met at a store who was quoting scripture... The area of sex in particular is one reason Christians or anyone of a particular faith shouldn't go around and tell people they're "better" or "superior" to others....
snug.bunny Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 That is a valid question. Some of the OP's comments seem contradictory. She wants to be a "good Christian girl" yet says she doesn't like church. She's explained that now. Yes. She did explain it, but they are still contradictory (with regard to abstinence because I am a "good Christian", but yet says being a Christian has nothing to do with it). At least that's how I see it. But, I am of just one opinion. I believe in God, so my comments do not come from a place of a non-believer. I respect the OP's choices either way. Thank you for your thoughtful responses and comments.
Floridaman Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 Thank you for your thoughtful responses and comments. Snug, I want to send you a PM but you're not receiving PMs. When you have time, please send me one. Thanks.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I'm a "sweet tart". I'm a "cool" conservative Christian girl that just wants a cool conservative Christian guy. the only problem with that, is that most "christian guys" tend to LOOK like christian guys. Just because you're a conservative guy, doesn't mean you have to wear khaki pants, white button up shirts, slick your hair back all nice and wear wire rimmed glasses. I don't look like that, I look very contemporary. I look like a young, cool girl. That's all I want in a guy. Someone who can listen to Slayer and still go to church the next day. I basically wanna live like what Florida Man described. With the woman who lives with her boyfriend and goes to church and preaches about waiting til marriage for sex. I believe in it. Will I live it? Who knows... I really don't care.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I want a mix of "bad" and "good". Politically, I fall right smack in the middle of conservative and liberal. Religiously, it's the same way. I basically sit on the fence for everything in life and refuse to pick a side. While I agree with everything the bible teaches, I don't live it to the full extent. ::shrugs:: I preach it, but don't follow it all myself. Unless I'm forced. And right now I'm forced to be celibate, because every guy I like, thinks I'm more conservative than I really am because I'm introverted. They think I'm some prude and get the wrong idea about me. ::shrugs again:: No guy I like ever likes me and I have never liked any guy that likes me. Every guy that goes for me tends to be really conservative and that is a huge turn off to me. Even though I myself tend to fall more under the category of conservative. I want the opposite of myself. Because it would be incredibly boring to find someone exactly like me. I don't want the good Christian guy, I just want to preach about how wrong they are. lol
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 I want a mix of "bad" and "good". Politically, I fall right smack in the middle of conservative and liberal. Religiously, it's the same way. I basically sit on the fence for everything in life and refuse to pick a side. While I agree with everything the bible teaches, I don't live it to the full extent. ::shrugs:: I preach it, but don't follow it all myself. Unless I'm forced. And right now I'm forced to be celibate, because every guy I like, thinks I'm more conservative than I really am because I'm introverted. They think I'm some prude and get the wrong idea about me. ::shrugs again:: No guy I like ever likes me and I have never liked any guy that likes me. Every guy that goes for me tends to be really conservative and that is a huge turn off to me. Even though I myself tend to fall more under the category of conservative. I want the opposite of myself. Because it would be incredibly boring to find someone exactly like me. I don't want the good Christian guy, I just want to preach about how wrong they are if they aren't*. lol whoops, said that wrong anyway...I would the exact, bipolar opposite of me. I'm the moral compass and I want the bad boy rocker dude.
Author DreamerGirl27 Posted June 26, 2011 Author Posted June 26, 2011 whoops, said that wrong anyway...I want* the exact, bipolar opposite of me. I'm the moral compass and I want the bad boy rocker dude. said that wrong, too
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