MrDrama Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Here is some quick background : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t274731/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t279717/ If you dont feel like reading my previous posts, basically my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. A month later she started dating one of my co worker friends. We were together for 2 years and she does that to me. So I have not talked to my EX for 1 month no contact completely ignored at work, i treated her like she didn't exist so I could get over her and I didnt want to see her new "relationship". So last night I get a phone call asking why I was ignoring her and how sad she was and how much she missed me. I responded why are you calling me you have a new man in your life so why are you bothering with me. She said im not over you and I miss you so much its crazy. We kept talking for about a hour then we decided to meet up, next thing you know were talking for 2 hours and then we start messing around and we had sex. I just don't know what to think anymore, Im so confused now. I did NC and then a month later im having sex with her again while she has a new boyfriend. She says she wants to be with me later but she needs to find a new job first before she can break up with her new boyfriend for the fact that we all work together. Do you think she had G.I.G.S and now is realizing what she did? So confused and im guessing we will probably continue to have sex while she is with her new boyfriend am I wrong for doing this considering the guy ****ed me over when he started dating her?
wilsonx Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Run for the HILLS AS FAST AS POSSIBLE My ex did this to me a for a week after we broke up 4 days straight of sex and my head was so confused I did not know which way was up RUN NC HER AND RUN DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN
Author MrDrama Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Sucks man I would love to run away but when your in love its hard. I was doing so good too. Did not start contact what so ever and looked what happened.
Chi townD Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Her excuse to stay with her rebound is not exceptable. Go back to NC. CLEARLY, this girl doesn't have a clue as to what she wants.
PegNosePete Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 The others are right, unless you want a whole world of pain, go back to the NC and don't do this again. If she calls say you aren't interested and tell her to stop calling you.
Author MrDrama Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 I guess I just still feel like she is the one and she said she wants us to be together in the future, I guess I just want to hold on to her as long as a I can. Just being around her makes me so happy, but I know its wrong and I shouldn't be doing it.
TearyEyedPride Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 If she'll do it to him, she'll do it to you. So she has a man, and now you're her sideline ex piece. If she missed you so much... she'd be willing to be with you NOW, not in some undetermined amount of time. When people care... they set deadlines. When is this "future" she's referring to, and what does she expect you to be doing in the meantime? Waiting? Hmmm... And she has to wait to get a new job before she breaks up with her current boyfriend? Pffft. That didn't stop her from getting a new job when it was you did it? She just started dating him without a problem right? Hmmm... think about this carefully... I agree with the others as far as abandoning ship, however if you're gonna stick it out and play with fire, at least have an exit strategy. Tell her you can't play games anymore, and that she needs to deliver on her word, and that you two can't be intimate until she does. Also let her know you won't wait around long. Take some of your dignity back.
Starleena Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Running, run, run for it. In another thread someone was explaining how when you're in "love" with someone, you're blind by their sh*tty ways, pretty much. You just admitted you know it's wrong and you shouldn't be doing it... but loving her is holding you back basically. Don't think with your heart on this one. That head of yours that is saying this is wrong, don't do it.. follow those thoughts!! You will love again and it will be 32893973893237x better too.
fallenenvy Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Run for the HILLS AS FAST AS POSSIBLE My ex did this to me a for a week after we broke up 4 days straight of sex and my head was so confused I did not know which way was up RUN NC HER AND RUN DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN He is right. run. don't let her do this crap to you. Don't let her back in to your life.. you will get hurt again. ~Fallen Envy
O_O Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 So she won't break up with him to date you because you all work together, but it was totally cool to break up with you and start dating him even though you all work together??? Dude. She's not coming back to you. Ever. Read the writing on the wall here. Even if she does come back to you, it will only be after she's been wounded by someone else, and only until some shiny new guy comes along who catches her attention. Let's be frank, that's not coming back to you, that's using you for emotional support. Nothing else. I know it feels good to see her and be with her, but it's going to start feeling worse and worse. It's not worth the pain.
ScienceGal Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 She is lucky that you even talk to her! My ex won't even talk to me... if he did, I sure wouldn't be trying to be with him and another man. You need to get away from her! Unhealthy situation and it will NOT end well for you!
TheHurtProcess Posted July 7, 2011 Posted July 7, 2011 Run for the HILLS AS FAST AS POSSIBLE My ex did this to me a for a week after we broke up 4 days straight of sex and my head was so confused I did not know which way was up RUN NC HER AND RUN DO NOT DO THIS AGAIN My ex did it as well. We went two week NC after breaking up initially. Then she broke NC and we became intimate again for a really short period of time, maybe a week. Now... Well, let's just say I'm on week 3 of NC again.
Movingthrough Posted July 8, 2011 Posted July 8, 2011 Honestly things like this are a lot easier to understand then we think, it took me about a year to figure this stuff out. First of all im not saying what she is doing is right, its def. not, but there is a reason. Think of it like this, why would a person leave you, get someone else, then have sex with you; clearly there are still feelings there for you but not enough for a relationship. People can break up with you, then miss you, then screw you and still keep someone on the side, its called confliction. They have 70% of them that like you, lets say 90% takes a relationship and 60% takes sex, so there you go. For years i would ask myself how these girls could want out, then constantly tell me they miss me, then fall off the face of the earth. Some people will just say an emotion without thinking about it, then stop and think woops. The problem with your situation is she clearly doesnt know what she wants, and basically goes after what makes her happy at the moment. I would also argue she used that other guy to get over you, it obviously didnt work but hey the other guy is cool so why not keep him around. I would look at this situation with the feeling of now you know she is messed up so go NC. You are lucky to have the proof early on.
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