lalalandman Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Ex of 5 yrs Broke up with me over a month ago. Went NC for a while, and ex contacted me. It was ok, but then drama resurfaced. I Went NC again. Been over a week now. So there's this new girl, who really, really likes me. She tried to sleep with me, but I stopped that. She's texting me a ton, and is really sweet. The weird part is her name is the same as my ex, just spelled differently. I didn't get her name until later in the first night of us being together, so it's not like I went for her just because of that. What's everyones take on dating after a breakup? If I feel like I'm moving on quickly, is this OK? I feel that, even if I wanted to get back with the ex (at some point), it's really out of my control, so why hold off on a potentially rewarding relationship with someone else? But is it counter productive if considering reconciliation. But see, the ex isn't considering reconciliation so what does it matter, right? I met this girl through my roommate. The way I look at it, she was brought to me, by fate, so I'd be slapping Him (or whatever) in the face if I just shunned her away. But then again, I have to consider everyones feelings. I hate being so thoughtful. Please advise.
just_scott Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 hey if your ready to date someone then go for it like you said your ex may not even want reconsiliation , so why just hang around being bummed out waiting for that when it may not even happen
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 The weird part is her name is the same as my ex, just spelled differently. well the bright side is you won't have to worry about screaming the wrong name during s.. well as long as you don't scream out how you spell the name. personally if I was considering recon I wouldn't date unless I knew my ex was dating someone. but if you believe things with this new girl can really work then go for it.
Author lalalandman Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 hey if your ready to date someone then go for it like you said your ex may not even want reconsiliation , so why just hang around being bummed out waiting for that when it may not even happen Yes, that's the boost I was looking for...
Author lalalandman Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 well the bright side is you won't have to worry about screaming the wrong name during s.. well as long as you don't scream out how you spell the name. personally if I was considering recon I wouldn't date unless I knew my ex was dating someone. but if you believe things with this new girl can really work then go for it. LOL! Yes that would be pretty weird to spell someone's name during s.. See personally, why should I have to wait for my ex to date before I do? And honestly, how would I really know if she was seeing someone else or not? Personally, I'm sure she has a potential in her arsenal currently. She has male support, I'm sure of it. And I'm sure he's doing all the right things, for now.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 LOL! Yes that would be pretty weird to spell someone's name during s.. See personally, why should I have to wait for my ex to date before I do? And honestly, how would I really know if she was seeing someone else or not? Personally, I'm sure she has a potential in her arsenal currently. She has male support, I'm sure of it. And I'm sure he's doing all the right things, for now. you shouldn't, but if you do end up reconciling with your ex and you have been with someone else where she wasn't... I can see future problems. now how it should work out is during recon you let the past be the past and treat each other like it is a new relationship but people tend to hold onto things. and you are right, you will never know for sure if she is seeing someone unless she told you. But it is perfectly fine to make the assumption that she is dating if you believe she does have that male support you are talking about. I say go for this new chick.
Author lalalandman Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 I'll be honest. She broke up with me in September for the 4th time. Strung me along. I did meet a new girl and we became very close and intimate. When my ex got wind of this, she did everything in her power to end us, including showing up at my place unannounced at midnight, banging on the door. Eventually the new girl couldn't stand it any longer, and left in January. My ex was still there, but could not let go of the past. however, she let on that she slept with another person when she broke it off, and they ended in January. Basically, our lives are strangely intertwined. I definitely have some thinking to do, but I need to act on my heart. I can't sit around and wonder if she's looking to reconcile. There's a force greater than me which has brought a new someone in my life. I have some soul searching to do.
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