tony3000 Posted April 19, 2004 Posted April 19, 2004 Hi everyone, I started dating a girl about a month ago. She's 12 yrs younger than me(she's 21) We got close pretty fast, shouldn't have done that. She started to distance herself so I pulled back. We talked about being exclusive and the next day she changed her mind. I basically said the heck with it. Saw her about a week later and she was getting frustrated cuz I was with my friends and not really paying attention to her. (not on purpose) Saw her again a few days later and she asked me to go out on Monday. Well, she calls and cancels saying something has come up, she did it before. I finally got fed up and told her she's flaky! It felt good to stand up for myself, but now I'm regretting it. I almost called to apologize cuz I care about her very much, but I didn't. What should I do? Please help!!! I would like feedback from both genders please....
yes Posted April 19, 2004 Posted April 19, 2004 well, what did she say to being told she's flaky? in general, i think a month is too soon to become exclusive. date her for one or two more months before bringing it up again - if she's still not up for it, prolly best to move on. she's 21, after all, she may wanna still date around. my 2c, -yes
Author tony3000 Posted April 19, 2004 Author Posted April 19, 2004 Well, she's the one who said she tells other people she has a boyfriend.. We discussed it and she said she wanted to be exclusive. Two days later she said she wasn't ready. As far as the flaky thing goes, she said she had to go and hung up, that was yesterday. Haven't talked to her since. I've never told her how i felt about her and am wondering if I should.
WWDDFD Posted April 19, 2004 Posted April 19, 2004 Originally posted by tony3000 Well, she's the one who said she tells other people she has a boyfriend.. We discussed it and she said she wanted to be exclusive. Two days later she said she wasn't ready. As far as the flaky thing goes, she said she had to go and hung up, that was yesterday. Haven't talked to her since. I've never told her how i felt about her and am wondering if I should. In my albeit limited experience, hiding feelings just doesn't work. As the piano man says, "Tell her about it! Let her know before it's too late!"
yes Posted April 19, 2004 Posted April 19, 2004 If I were you, I'd tell her abt your feelings, too (just take her out and tell her that you really care about her and such). I'd also ask her not cancel last minute w/out good reason. BUT keep in mind she's 21! You MAY be just an adventure for her. Perhaps she just wanted to see if she could get you to be exclusive... you've gotta be suspicious of young gal's motives (I'm her age, so trust me!) good luck, -yes
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