drdroopy Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 hello all, im reaching out and coming here because the best advice you can get is from a complete stranger. So heres the low down Me and my GF have been on and off for 9 years, we have had our break ups and did out own thing for a few months and have done this a few times. We currently have a kid now (2.5 YO) and have not broken up or cheated in years. But the other day i found out she has been cheating, whats more is we had a fight and i moved out for one day but she asked that i move back and we give it a few weeks to try and make it work, but one week into this she started hooking up with a guy behind my back but i diddnt find out till two weeks later, this whole time thinking we were trying to make this work. It hurts like hell and her reason behind it was i wasnt giving her enough attention and making her feel loved enough. Now i really do love this girl we have been through hell and back and have a wonderful family when we make things work. Im not going to lie ive screwed up (not cheating) but i go out with friends and dont come home once in awhile and yes i know i could give her more attention. But im stuck at a crossroad right now, should i give her another chance or should i just take the pain and move on. It just makes it so much harder cause we have a kid together and i dont want to leave her and mess up our family........im sorry now im dragging on, please give me some honest advice.........
Layzie89 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 The past should have no influence on what you do today. You two had a turbulent relationship in the beginning but have since both calmed down and had a kid. The fact is old habits came back and she cheated on you AGAIN. Don't use the past as a scapegoat for her behavior thinking that oh since you cheated before and have screwed up, its okay if she does the same. It's not. My advice? Pack your bags and start walking...never look back. Get it out of your mind that you leaving her is destroying your family. If anyone is hurting the family it's her when she decided to cheat on you. A cheating girlfriend is a girlfriend that has lost respect for her man. If you decide to try and work things out with her, the little respect she still has for you will be close to nil and you can expect the same to happen again a few months down the line. I've taken back my cheating ex four times and it backfired on me, each and every time. Just sayin.
Author drdroopy Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 Well she answered my question this past weekend, come to find out she has cheated on me with well over 10 guys over the past 9 years of our relationship.....damn does that hurt......and it was all because I diddnt make her happy.......that's nine years of my live I wasted on someone who never cared for me, time I'll never get back that could have been spent with someone who isn't a liar and cheater........
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