Leftie88 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 hahaha this thread is exactly what i was thinking about today. I think i've heard it about 15 times today from my mother alone ( okay i get it, i need to move on with my life.. its not like i want to be wallowing in self pity and crying over someone who treated me like crap) because my ex has moved on with someone new, why cant i? To which i respond... erm because i genuinely loved the guy, and it takes quite some time as far as i know to process the feelings. Though i admit i prefer move on to "Get the eff over it and stop B.s yourself!" from the ex. delightful!
dicky_fish Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 "Work on yourself" has become the phrase on here that really rattles my nut. I don't need to work on myself. I was bloody great in my relationship! One comfort I'm getting from this is her mates are actually on my side saying I am such a nice guy and perfect for her, and she's just being stupid for throwing me away. Of course that leads them to say "move on, you deserve better" which in turn p***es me off even more. I deserve to have all the things we planned together come to fruition!
9Lives Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 All that term does is make people angry! Its a horrible term that is associated with pain and misery! Don't get me wrong, I agree we do all have to "Move On" but we should all come up with a different way of saying it, because we are all sick to death of hearing it lol. Im so happy you fking said that. I HATE THAT PHRASE WITH A PASSION!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POINTING IT OUT.
9Lives Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 I think people dislike being told to move on because when you are grieving your loss, you are too focused on the hope, and "hoping" keeps you stuck in a mode where hearing the words "move on" drive you crazy because choosing to go that route means accepting it's over. When someone tells you to move on, they are essentially interfering with your "hope". In the beginning stages of a break up, hope helps to balance out the intensity of the grief. When you are in that stage of hoping- all you want to hear is some magical formula that is guaranteed to get you your ex back. It's no wonder people make so much money on the internet with "getting your ex back" e-books... i think a better way to say it is "let it go" or leave it alone" or something like that. Move on is so terrible to me.
9Lives Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 hahaha this thread is exactly what i was thinking about today. I think i've heard it about 15 times today from my mother alone ( okay i get it, i need to move on with my life.. its not like i want to be wallowing in self pity and crying over someone who treated me like crap) because my ex has moved on with someone new, why cant i? To which i respond... erm because i genuinely loved the guy, and it takes quite some time as far as i know to process the feelings. Though i admit i prefer move on to "Get the eff over it and stop B.s yourself!" from the ex. delightful! OMG! I just want to kick someone in the FACE when they said that to me. Im like what does that have to do with me.....Even hearing it right now makes me want to scream. I feel so agressive right now! lol
radiodarcy Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 My ex said or actually yelled, "Move on...go and sleep with someone else or something!" So sweet. nice. my ex pretty much said the same thing to me. only he told me how to go about doing it!
Kazmi Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 RIO5. Hey so, what are you saying about me exactly? :lmao::lmao:
Kazmi Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 nice. my ex pretty much said the same thing to me. only he told me how to go about doing it! What? Are you serious? O_o Anyway yes, I hate "Move on" I hate "There are plenty of fish in the sea"/"You'd find someone better" I hate "You'll be with many other men that you'd get to dump" I hate all of the insensitive sentences people tell when they can't think of something else but feel obliged to response for your whining and crying >_< Feels like these are sentences made for people who got not clue and want to sound nice to you I can manage with "let go" though
Author usabup Posted June 24, 2011 Author Posted June 24, 2011 What? Are you serious? O_o Anyway yes, I hate "Move on" I hate "There are plenty of fish in the sea"/"You'd find someone better" I hate "You'll be with many other men that you'd get to dump" I hate all of the insensitive sentences people tell when they can't think of something else but feel obliged to response for your whining and crying >_< Feels like these are sentences made for people who got not clue and want to sound nice to you I can manage with "let go" though Yeah "let go" isn't too bad. I'm glad I'm not the only one who hates "move on" lol
radiodarcy Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 What? Are you serious? O_o Anyway yes, I hate "Move on" I hate "There are plenty of fish in the sea"/"You'd find someone better" I hate "You'll be with many other men that you'd get to dump" I hate all of the insensitive sentences people tell when they can't think of something else but feel obliged to response for your whining and crying >_< Feels like these are sentences made for people who got not clue and want to sound nice to you I can manage with "let go" though i'm afraid so yes. he didn't break it down to the point where he was telling me where to insert which body parts. he basically told me i need to go out to a bar, chat up a guy and if i like him -- take him home and eff him. charming. but yes -- i hate all of the above statements you listed as well. plenty of other fish in the sea is a meaningless statement. and really, why should someone's "reward" for being dumped be being able to dump plenty of other guys or girls? :\ this is why i've given up on discussing the break up with family and friends and only do so on here. unless someone is actually going through a break up at that very moment - - there is no way they can possibly understand how it feels.
Kazmi Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 i'm afraid so yes. he didn't break it down to the point where he was telling me where to insert which body parts. he basically told me i need to go out to a bar, chat up a guy and if i like him -- take him home and eff him. charming. .... this is why i've given up on discussing the break up with family and friends and only do so on here. unless someone is actually going through a break up at that very moment - - there is no way they can possibly understand how it feels. Eek what an ass, makes me literally sick I feel you, I stopped talking with other people, they only say meaningless stupid things. It feels like no one of them ever felt love >_> Someone told me "you don't care about the person! He isn't important to you! What''s important to you is the relationship and when you'll understand that you'll stop crying" Yeahhhh..... No. Relationship = barely important to me (had only one, and I'm nearing age 21, just ain't looking for it) My ex = used to be best friend and closest person to me. I swear, a month ago I felt no one understand and seemed to me like I'm the only person alive that knows how love feels ahhh Glad I found this forum
TheHurtProcess Posted June 25, 2011 Posted June 25, 2011 I suppose it all depends on who you hear it from. To me, from the right person it's brutally honest and straight to the point. Sometimes you need to hear the "brutally honest".
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