usabup Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 All that term does is make people angry! Its a horrible term that is associated with pain and misery! Don't get me wrong, I agree we do all have to "Move On" but we should all come up with a different way of saying it, because we are all sick to death of hearing it lol.
RIO5 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Those are the best two words anybody could tell you once its over. Short, simple and easy to understand. Its called facing reality ASAP instead of being in La La land with your perception of life and how you want things to be.
Author usabup Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Those are the best two words anybody could tell you once its over. Short, simple and easy to understand. Its called facing reality ASAP instead of being in La La land with your perception of life and how you want things to be. Yeah I agree 100% with the princible, but the actual term itself kind of makes people want to do the opposite I feel sometimes. I'm finding it difficult to put my point across properly in words but you know what I mean! Lol
Author usabup Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Ok this is the best way I can put it. When I was a kid, I didn't like milk. So everytime I was told to drink milk because it was good for me, I didn't want to. But, one day my Mom offered me chocolate milk and all of a sudden it seemed like a good idea! So instead of telling people to "Move On" why not tell them to "Get a hotter Boyfriend/Girlfriend"....all of a sudden that seems like a good plan! So.... Do you want milk?- NO! Do you want Chocolate Milk?- Hell yeah! Do you want to move on?- NO! Do you want a hotter Boyfriend/Girlfriend?- Hell Yeah!
lalalandman Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Its called facing reality ASAP instead of being in La La land with your perception of life and how you want things to be. RIO5. Hey so, what are you saying about me exactly?
geegirl Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 We could say go find a hotter boyfriend or girlfriend but that would last all of two seconds in masking your pain because here comes Mr. Reality and he's smack dab in your face again reminding you of the situation at hand.
RIO5 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Ok this is the best way I can put it. When I was a kid, I didn't like milk. So everytime I was told to drink milk because it was good for me, I didn't want to. But, one day my Mom offered me chocolate milk and all of a sudden it seemed like a good idea! So instead of telling people to "Move On" why not tell them to "Get a hotter Boyfriend/Girlfriend"....all of a sudden that seems like a good plan! So.... Do you want milk?- NO! Do you want Chocolate Milk?- Hell yeah! Do you want to move on?- NO! Do you want a hotter Boyfriend/Girlfriend?- Hell Yeah! So another words, your saying that people should say 'find someone better'? But even that cant work because once a relationship ends then you need to proceed with a certain part of your life that you must do alone: make yourself a better person. If you just say 'find someone 'better' and dont make yourself a better person, you will be making the same mistake only with a different person.
RIO5 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 RIO5. Hey so, what are you saying about me exactly? Thats a cute name...
TheHurtProcess Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 RIO5. Hey so, what are you saying about me exactly? Definitely brought a smile to my face Thanks for that, bud.
D-Lish Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I think people dislike being told to move on because when you are grieving your loss, you are too focused on the hope, and "hoping" keeps you stuck in a mode where hearing the words "move on" drive you crazy because choosing to go that route means accepting it's over. When someone tells you to move on, they are essentially interfering with your "hope". In the beginning stages of a break up, hope helps to balance out the intensity of the grief. When you are in that stage of hoping- all you want to hear is some magical formula that is guaranteed to get you your ex back. It's no wonder people make so much money on the internet with "getting your ex back" e-books...
here4her Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I think people dislike being told to move on because when you are grieving your loss, you are too focused on the hope, and "hoping" keeps you stuck in a mode where hearing the words "move on" drive you crazy because choosing to go that route means accepting it's over. When someone tells you to move on, they are essentially interfering with your "hope". In the beginning stages of a break up, hope helps to balance out the intensity of the grief. When you are in that stage of hoping- all you want to hear is some magical formula that is guaranteed to get you your ex back. It's no wonder people make so much money on the internet with "getting your ex back" e-books... Agreed!! No one wants to hear the "move on" Its not what they want. They want to make it happen and not be told its over. Sadly it is, and they must realize that. But sometimes no matter how many people tell them they just wont listen in till they find out for themselves.
lalalandman Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Definitely brought a smile to my face Thanks for that, bud. LOL too much fun! Anyways, "move on" is a good thing to hear. Honestly, moving on really does wonders for your soul. It shows that you're strong enough to be an individual; that you're not someone else's crutch. It means you're not afraid to venture the road ahead. It means you can let go of the past and become a better person for the future. Honestly, I'm almost in week 2 of NC. My ex called after 2 weeks of NC, probably out of regret/guilt, only to cause drama (got me vocally angry, ugh! unfortunately) and led me to go NC again. She actually spent about 30 minutes telling me all these reasons I'm a low person. Then she said with this air of confidence "oh you'll just call again in a week". Nope. That was 2 Sundays ago. Moving On means you know you're better than that.
Finch Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 'Move on' is concise. Like D-Lish pointed out it means accepting the situation as it is and learning to get beyond it. Having someone tell you to 'move on' may sound cruel, but it's being cruel to be kind. It means they see you're stuck where you are and feel that you would better be served by adopting an attitude that would instigate forward motion. Perhaps that's a better way of expressing it? 'Time to instigate positive forward motion!' Nah, too long. Move on.
Fufu Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I like the word move on.. it can use in relationships or in business or any personal issues. Well, don't because you don't like it personally and then you expect everyone to stop using it. ^_^
betterdeal Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 It can be annoying at times. Just like "cheer up" can be to someone who's depressed. The idea is fine. The devil is in the detail and, in these cases, it's the how we move on and how we cheer up that matters. Anyway, that's that topic exhausted so cheer up everyone and move on.
radiodarcy Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 yeah - - i hate that phrase. especially since my ex said that to me several times in an extremely harsh e-mail that he sent - - effectively dumping me. kind of left a bad taste in my mouth after that. honestly the best way to help someone get through a break up is to listen to them vent and be there for them. either that or respect what their going through and give them their space to let them grieve. i agree with geegirl, finding a supposedly "hotter bf/gf" isn't going to help anything. anytime someone comes on here talking about how the had sex with a hot girl/guy and it didn't make them feel as good as they thought it would i want to say: what??? screwing a hot girl/guy didn't help you get over your ex??? I'M SHOCKED!!!
marqueemoon4 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 when my exW told me I had to "man up and move on" after all the sh*t she put me through, yea, I wanted to choke her.
shayla Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 What pissed me off about move on....my now ex boyfriend said that after I found out that during our 3 year relationship he cheated on me with another woman for at least a year, and she proudly announced on Facebook that he had put a ring on her finger and that they were engaged. Welp, I never got that memo, as a matter of fact, we had made plans the day before to spend the weekend together. When i confront him about this a day later, after not knowing about this until right then, this prick tells me to move on. Say what? I don't deserve an explanation? I dont deserve to hear that you are sorry for causing all this pain when you could have told me at the time? I get told to move on like I am stalking him or something? Puhleeze. I wanted to kick that lying bastard in the throat. I wanted to go and burn the damn church down on their wedding day. How's that for moving on? Fast forward to right after that farce of a wedding. I ran into a very nice man that ironically Mr. Liar and Cheater introduced me too a year before! It was at a basketball game and he was forced to after this man walked up him and asked him who I was. Very attractive, very polite, mmm yeah...a year later we are inseperable. Thank you cheater, you did me a favor!!!! And for the record, it took me 7 months to really get over the whole thing. Anger over the games, the manipulation, the sneakiness, and the bitch move he played at the end. Ugh.
radiodarcy Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 (edited) when my exW told me I had to "man up and move on" after all the sh*t she put me through, yea, I wanted to choke her. yeah -- the whole pace of that phrase just makes me feel as though i am being written off. which is why it especially hurts to hear it straight from the dumper. friends and family i can tolerate hearing it from but the ex - - it's unbearable. Edited June 23, 2011 by radiodarcy
TheHurtProcess Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 it took me 7 months to really get over the whole thing. Anger over the games, the manipulation, the sneakiness, and the bitch move he played at the end. Ugh. It took me a grand total of a month. Someone like that isn't worth my time. We pretty much went NC right away. Then she came back a couple of weeks later. Things happened. Then a couple days later, she all of a sudden "didn't know" what she wanted again. It's like WTF? I was so pissed, I refused to dwell on someone like that. Fast forward another week and I'm back to the old me again, the person I was three years ago before I met this person who I finally just realized is a self-centered drama-queen, who seriously bored the hell out of me the majority of the time we were together, cheated on me several times and lied to me non-stop. Go live your mediocre life. I'm going to live mine to the fullest. Let's just say... If she were to tell me to "move on", the authorities would be knocking on my door, questioning me as to why they found her face down in a ditch
marqueemoon4 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 lets just stick to "GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE". Makes me want to drop kick puppies.
geegirl Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 My ex said or actually yelled, "Move on...go and sleep with someone else or something!" So sweet.
TheHurtProcess Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 lets just stick to "GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE". Makes me want to drop kick puppies. Hahaha. Nice! I used to say "It makes me want to kick puppies" all the time. That's great. Great minds think alike. I can't imagine trying to drop kick a puppy though. I mean, wouldn't you have to put it up on something tall first. You're talking an insanely low drop kick, otherwise. That is my hypothesis. I'm gonna experiment with a few different breeds of puppy and get back to you on the results.
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