Mr. Savage Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Girlfriend and I have been apart for a couple months after she said she needed a break. Long story I wont bother you with. Anyway we kept in touch for a little while after (it was awkward). Then I found this site and read about no contact and decided that was the right thing to do. I made it a week (I'm pathetic) in which she made no effort to contact me and I did not her. Then we had a talk about things bothering her in life and some stuff about me (my drinking habits) and started texting her on a regular basis again. However her responses to these texts have been very short and to the point and I can tell she doesn't wanna communicate. So I am going for round 2 of no contact and I am not breaking this time! The only problem is I work with her (not directly, same building) and out shifts overlap by a couple hours so I do see her everyday over the course of my duties. What is the right way to do this while going NC. Do I say "hi" when we pass. Is it rude and cold to just pretend she's not there? Or let her say "hi" first. This is confusing. Thanks for any help!
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 keep a professional relationship with her, yes say hi when you pass and only talk about work related things. if you work with someone you obviously can't go NC with them physically so just make sure your emotions are not visible (don't cry, don't bring up past events with her, don't act like she is the best thing that has ever happened to you). if she starts a conversation that isn't work related don't reveal to much about yourself. and if she asks something along the lines of "why are you acting so differently?" kindly let her know "that's not us anymore". hope this helps
Author Mr. Savage Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Yeah that sounds good. It's an uncomfortable situation no matter how you look it at. I just gotta stick to my guns with the no contact this time. Thanks!
shortee143 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I hear ya- ex and I are in the same social circle so I see him alllll the time. It is tough to not show emotion, but I'm working on that, and just trying to act normal. I'm so hurt by him and so angry at him for a lot, so it is hard to not wanna let it out, but I hold my head up high the best I can, and be mature. Someone here told me to just try and "put the feelings in your back pocket", and yea your going to feel them, and that is ok, and it sucks, but in the end, you'll prob be happy if you just act pleasant and maintain your cool! Def stinks having to see an ex in any case!
Kilty Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 You could do what i do and either grimace at her (which i havent done in a while but i certainly dont wear a smile when i see her) or act as if she doesnt exist which i do most times. Difference is she is getting married in a few weeks to the guy she rebounded onto one month after we split - who works across the floor from me lol.
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