Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Well my no contact has been going well got back from ibiza though and she was txting me asking me loads of questions about what girls i been talking to and all that malarky. And this is all with her dating a new fella from her work which she told me. I ignored all this as well she still had some of my stuff so instead of contacting her i asked her stepmom to sort it out for me. But as soon as I asked I get a txt message from her saying I am pathetic and if I want it sorting out dont go through her step mom. So i replied to this txt just saying I just want to get my stuff sorted so i can move on like she has. Then I got a reply I understand and all that so finally hopefully she leave me alone. I did have a proper setback though when i saw now she has put her main profile picture of her and this new fella bloody god damn hurt. No i am feeling abit back to stage one with ups and downs please give me advice proper struggling to get to grip this week!!
wilsonx Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 set boundaries... for yourself and to her... something like... I want you to stop contacting me. When I am ready to talk with you again I will let you know. dont explain it to her, say it once and go no contact
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Yeah I have gone no contact have been not responding to her txts that was the first txt i responded to just to say I wanted my stuff. I am just gutted she has put that as her profile picture because she said she wouldnt rub it. I am just going crazy now has set me back once again just got get myself happy again!!
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 So seems like she hasnt got the idea and won't leave me be!! Get a txt from her at work today just driving past your work want to stop and say hi. Man she is making life so difficult for me she knows i still love her but she got a new fella now so why wont she leave me be. I stayed strong and didnt respond!!
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Sounds like she is still attached to you in some way, maybe her new "fella" isn't showing the good qualities that you showed her.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Who knows she is making my life a pain just got stay strong though and maintain this no contact to get me through got another holiday coming up so that is all what I am trying to concentrate on!! Just wished she respect me abit more!!
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 you could change your number, or if your phone has the feature you can block certain numbers in the settings.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Yeah I think that might be a good idea soon i am hoping she soon might get the point and leave me be though i hate not being able to respond but got look over my feelings now and no contact is for the best!!
lipvixen2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Honestly sweetie I think she is just keeping you in the loop for the "just incase" it doesn't work out with her new beau. Believe me, I've been there before myself in her shoes. I'm sure she still loves you and misses you. I'm not sure exactly your two ages but that is something someone in their early 20's would do..like I said, I've done it before. If I'm with someone now, I'm with them and not texting them like she is doing with you. We kind of know better. I'd say to just text her and let her know or even email her so there isn't constant communication back and forth which texts could lead to, let her know that you would really appreciate her not contacting you especially with the fact she has a new man now and that you're trying to move on and she isn't helping the matter. Hell, don't even say you're trying, say you've moved on. If she still tries to contact then do what the other person said above and try to block her number somehow. Block every line of contact from Facebook, personal email and so on. Now if she really cares about you she'll stop by! LOL Hopefully that won't be the case, especially if you start seeing someone new! Good luck buddy!
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 Honestly sweetie I think she is just keeping you in the loop for the "just incase" it doesn't work out with her new beau. Believe me, I've been there before myself in her shoes. I'm sure she still loves you and misses you. I'm not sure exactly your two ages but that is something someone in their early 20's would do..like I said, I've done it before. If I'm with someone now, I'm with them and not texting them like she is doing with you. We kind of know better. I'd say to just text her and let her know or even email her so there isn't constant communication back and forth which texts could lead to, let her know that you would really appreciate her not contacting you especially with the fact she has a new man now and that you're trying to move on and she isn't helping the matter. Hell, don't even say you're trying, say you've moved on. If she still tries to contact then do what the other person said above and try to block her number somehow. Block every line of contact from Facebook, personal email and so on. Now if she really cares about you she'll stop by! LOL Hopefully that won't be the case, especially if you start seeing someone new! Good luck buddy! Yeah it feels like that she is 23 i am just turning 27. I have told her numerous times not to text me because I need to move on like she has. But once again she broke that again I am jut ignoring all texts because if I text her then she starts to try have conversation. That is why I try to sort my stuff out with her stepmom and even then she had to txt me to say I am pathetic for doing that. yeah i have blocked all my facebook and that no way she can contact me. maybe my phone will have to be next. And thanks this site is a good way of me getting it all out i have felt so rubbish all this week but back on the mend.
lipvixen2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I'm not exactly sure who broke up with who since I am new to this as of last night with my own problem but still try to sort things out with her stepmom. Oh well if your ex thinks you're pathetic for doing so. It's easier for you not to see her and have to deal with her and her millions of questions that will come when face to face. I can see if she didn't have anyone new and you both still cared about each other..I can see you two trying to work things out but now that's she moved on (supposedly) she might not be happy in her current situation or is actually missing what you two had but doesn't want to chance leaving her new guy for you just incase you don't feel the same. I'm a woman in my early 30's and I have pulled that stuff in my 20's. I would never do that now but can't say I wouldn't have back then. If you really want to, ask her what the hell does she want from you. Why is she making this so difficult and all you want is your stuff back and you'd rather not go through her to do so. She might even break down who knows..After you get your stuff back though, just stop all contact. You don't want to be too harsh for the fact that she still has some of your stuff..you never know what she's capable of. Is it stuff you can live without? If so, just cut your losses now and run for the hills, because apparently she is not getting it.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 23, 2011 Author Posted June 23, 2011 I'm not exactly sure who broke up with who since I am new to this as of last night with my own problem but still try to sort things out with her stepmom. Oh well if your ex thinks you're pathetic for doing so. It's easier for you not to see her and have to deal with her and her millions of questions that will come when face to face. I can see if she didn't have anyone new and you both still cared about each other..I can see you two trying to work things out but now that's she moved on (supposedly) she might not be happy in her current situation or is actually missing what you two had but doesn't want to chance leaving her new guy for you just incase you don't feel the same. I'm a woman in my early 30's and I have pulled that stuff in my 20's. I would never do that now but can't say I wouldn't have back then. If you really want to, ask her what the hell does she want from you. Why is she making this so difficult and all you want is your stuff back and you'd rather not go through her to do so. She might even break down who knows..After you get your stuff back though, just stop all contact. You don't want to be too harsh for the fact that she still has some of your stuff..you never know what she's capable of. Is it stuff you can live without? If so, just cut your losses now and run for the hills, because apparently she is not getting it. She broke it off with me. After she txt me saying I was pathetic I just replied saying I am not being pathetic just want to get my stuff the quickest and easiest way possible. Im trying to move on like you have and I hope you respect that. i think we can be friends but i am not ready for that yet. So please give me space." she txt back saying she understands and i can sort my stuff out which i am doing. Then later she txt me again saying she wont be going anywhere i go now in Birmingham she is sorry for really hurting me cause she is seeing someone else and she will not contact me again. But then she txt me that today at work. I want this stuff back because it a few of my suits that I need for work. I aint going to contact her i can sort my stuff out I just wished she would not txt me things like that I know she wants me to respond to it. But this no contact is definatly way forward.
Author Jimmy_Hugh Posted June 27, 2011 Author Posted June 27, 2011 God must be something about the begining of the week always gets me. Had good weekend but once again she has come back in to my head. I really think she has been truthful to me about certain stuff now I have been looking over things really want to have it out with her but I know that isn't going to help so just had to write it on so I let it out feel so angry and feel like I have been took for a fool!!
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