just_scott Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 HEY got a question for yas if you reconcile with the recent ex no matter if your the dumper or the dumpee , and t's been time apart and you've done the No Contact [for whatever reason you are in contact with your ex] and both decided to gice the realtionship another go do you think it's right to ask what they've been up to , if they've seen or been with anyone after you ?
Kuite09 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Hi Scott, I think if you guys are deciding to get back together theres no need to speak about what happened when you guys werent together. Trust me the first time my ex and I broke up and got back together I asked every question in the book but seriously do you think they will tell you the truth anyways? remember they don't want to hurt you nor hurt the chances of making it work. He asked me questions but I never told him the truth just kept it simple. I think it should be a clean slate.
Author just_scott Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 i hear what your saying BUT what if you hear things from other people and you yourself maybe seen things do you question the person your with i think if you're going to reconcile and you are starting with a clean slate as you say then their should be communication and honesty ,heck they may tell you something you don't want to hear or can change your mind about the reconciliation but if you ask that's the chance you take right
Kuite09 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Well if you seen something or heard something then theres no harm in asking. I did all of the with my ex when we got back together...I drove him nuts asking questions at first I felt a lil uneasy due to the fact he broke up with me but after a while I just got over it. You need to understand if you guys are going to try to work it out you need to try as much as possible to start fresh, yes you can ask questions but don't dwell on it.
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