Kuite09 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Hi Guys, I posted a previous thread a week back or so in regards to my situation. Here is the link incase you want to check it out... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t282648/ I am hoping you guys can hear me out and give me some advise. To make a story short, my ex and I dated for 7 yrs we broke up in 2007 for about a year and then got back together and broke up in March of this year. During our last break up in 2007 he went thru the break up depression (when he broke up with me then also) and continued to call me and tell me im sorry but that he still loves me etc. Since our break up in March this year we talked almost every week due to some family issues I was going thru and of course me calling him driving him crazy begging and crying to him to take me back. Well its no been 3 weeks of NC and I am driving myself crazy.... on Father's day I texted him to say happy fathers day since hes a dad and he replied with a cute respond saying "Thank u very much booboo.....I mean Jackie I guess he was trying to be cute with the response in the message. Well other than that he hasnt called, emailed or nothing nor have I. Back in May I injured my foot hanging out with some friends and he went to the hospital to visit me and took me home and took care of me. 2 days after that we spoke a couple of times but then I started the NC. Since last break up we stayed in contact does this mean this time around he is really done? I am so confused ...I want to hear from him so bad but I know i need to stick with NC. The reason for the break up was some trust issues on my part and my ways and attitude he felt that I was too clingy and I had a bad habit of speaking to him in a messed up way. Btw, I am 28 and he's 35. Last time we spoke he told me that he loves me and is so upset we didn't work out but that I meant everything to him. He also did mention he was going out and meeting people cuz he was trying to move on with his life. The past months in our relationship were pretty rocky. Any advise would truly help me right now.....should I break NC? is he really done since he hasnt even called in 3 weeks?
PegNosePete Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 The reason for the break up was some trust issues on my part and my ways and attitude he felt that I was too clingy and I had a bad habit of speaking to him in a messed up way. That sounds like a bit of a pathetic reason to break up after 7 years. Did you not communicate your issues to each other? To be honest it sounds like a train wreck. If you couldn't communicate these issues before you split up then you really shouldn't be together. After 7 years you should be able to talk about these things and sort them out. If you can't, then he really isn't the one for you in the long term. What's to say that even if you got back together, the same wouldn't happen again in 2 years? You've already given it 2 tries. How many more?
Author Kuite09 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Thanks for your response Peg, The break up was for many issues that we werent able to resolve. We stuck it out because we loved each other and we kept saying lets try lets try. I do believe if something its meant to be it will happen, I have never loved a man the way I love him and I know hes never loved a woman the way hes loved me. Even after we broke up he kept saying that I was the love of his life and that he loves me unconditionally but just right now he couldnt continue becuz he wasnt happy. We lost respect, trust and some of that spark. I just dont get how can you tell someone I love you and you mean everything to me and be able to just cut all ties with them like he has. at this point I am hoping for the best.
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