cracker2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Im looking for your advice.you seem like someone who knows what you're talking about [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]With my boyfriend since Christmas.we started out as an LDR couple, we knew each other briefly when we were teens, but had no contact sincewe found each other again through a mutual friend..He lives in LA and I in the UK.We get onwell, have good contact- (every day at least twice,) have seen each other every month until now,but due to working life, we wont meet again til next month..He is good to me, tell mes he is crazy about me etc etc and to be honest he has kept me in the LDR when I felt I couldn’t do it anymore due to not liking the distance.he introduced me to his family, friends etc when he was home and when I went to visit him in LA.he has brought me to a wedding, and paid for my flights.he has invited me to another when he is home again.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Here is the thing though-I had a chance to apply for a job(with my work place) in USA close to him, but he said he thought it was not a good idea and that what about if it didn’t work out and would put too much pressure on us etc…and too soon to live together etc.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]I have tried talking again to him about it, and said I don’t need to live with you, but he is not keen on me moving.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]He is due home for good next april..[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]We are struggling at the moment cause I took it badly that he didn’t want me to move, and I thought if he was that crazy about me, wud he not want to give it a shot.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Im really confused now and wondering if he just doesn’t care enough about me..[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Why does he not want to take a chance on me and us? Am I being unreasonable .is it too soon to move? (note- i have broke up with him 3 times since we met, cause i get upset about the distance) he is the one that tells me each time to just give it a chance.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]When I ask him how he see’s this lasting after we next meet as it will be difficult for us to travel to see each other after that and he says he just doesn’t know..he said “we never thought we would get this far due to the distance and we have made it work so far”[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]We are both in our thirties.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]What do you think…please give me some advice. I know that its hard when you don’t know either of us,but he is sweet. He flew me over to meet him after i first dumped him cause he had made a mistake and he wanted to show me he cared and wanted to make it up to me.(he didnt cheat or anything-i just felt he didnt make enough effort with me when he was home that first time after we initally started dating),he sends me things in the post, he sends me songs, etc etc.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Would he really be in this relationship if he didn’t care.? 'I tell myself - Why wud he bother doing LDR if your not keen on the person..its too much hassle right?!wouldnt it be easier to just date someone in LA?![/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I too am nuts about him, infact im nearly sure im in love with him, but i dont want to get hurt and dont want to make a fool out of myself.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Neither of us have said i love you to each other.[/sIZE][/FONT]
Author cracker2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 sorry i wrote this in word doc. and copied. and if anyone else has advice please feel free to give.
Author cracker2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 anyone??????? stil would like to get opinions
crazylove Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Hi Cracker, That's kinda confused me a bit too because, like you he sounds like he really likes you a lot, yet doesn't want you close to him? I don't get it either! lol. Even if you gave it a go and it didn't work out, at least you'd have no regrets about trying. That's the way I'd look at it. It sounds like you really like him a lot, and call me an old romantic, but you never know what could happen:)
Author cracker2011 Posted July 4, 2011 Author Posted July 4, 2011 thanks crazylove for your reply. yes.im crazy about him..but im not going to up and leave when he says itd not a good idea to comve over.anyways im too late at this stage to apply for the job..so thats that i guess.. i will just have to trust him and not judge him for his decision!
crazylove Posted July 4, 2011 Posted July 4, 2011 You could always have applied for the job anyway, just to keep your options open. Doesn't mean you have to accept it? I know what you mean. It would certainly make me think about moving if he didn't sound like he really wanted me too. I guess you just have to respect his call on it, and see how it goes.
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