kaws Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Here goes the story. Me and my ex just recently broke up. 2 weeks ago. I love her so much. I can't stop thinking about her. I constantly dream about her, and I broke NC after a week, and she told me to let her heal and not check up on her, give her space and just leave her alone. Basically what happened, She found out that I added some girl on facebook and saw the inbox conversation I had with that girl I added. However it was only a friendly conversation, with a few compliments. I had no intentions on cheating on my Ex. My Ex took it the other way and broke up with me. Before that she was going to leave me because I wouldn't introduce her to my parents. I'm african and she's from Islands. Usually the African culture is very strict when it comes to introduce a BF/GF for the very first time, and I told her about it, and told her that I wasn't ready. To be honest I didn't feel too confident with myself and the position I was in, and I wanted to show my parents that I was stable and had something going on for myself before I formally introduced her to my parents. But I regret it now cause if she were to come back to my life now. First thing I'll do is introduce her to my parents, cause she's ideally the love of my life and the girl I want to be with the rest of my life. Our relationship has the potential to be great. And I'm respecting her request of leaving her alone. But I miss her so much, and this NC is driving me crazy. But I understand what NC can do for the both of us, which is let her heal and get herself together, and it also gives me the opportunity to get myself together. But I'm worried she might never come back. And I'll just be wasting my time waiting on her. What do you guys think? Thanks
california15 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 She might never come back. This is a possiblity that needs to be recognized - sometimes you have to be more realistic, than optimistic. Give her the space she wants and respect her request - its ok you Broke NC after a week- its hard for all of us in the beginning and sometimes we make the mistake of breaking it. But now you know you can't do that and Now you just have to stick to your guns and wait for her to contact you. That being said, don't WAIT for her as in putting your life on hold for this girl. You only get 1 life, don't waste it on a girl who isn't sure she wants to be in a relationship with you (from your post it sounds like she doesn't want to). Speaking from a woman's perspective, it is not attractive when a man waits and we know it. Go out! Live your life! Do what you love! Have your own life! Those are attractive qualities. Show her you don't NEED her in your life - you have your own life without her. And if she choses to be in it, then awesome. If she choses to not be in it, then thats ok too. Why? Because you're not waiting for her. You're out living life. The one life you have.
Author kaws Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 I guess you're right. This is my first hard break up and I'm trying to cope. Other relationships I would move on, meet new people and my ex no longer exist. But this one feels like it made a big impact in my life, and now all of a sudden she's gone. It sucks. Day by day of NC I feel empty. I no longer go on facebook, I'm paranoid of going out because I feel as if I will bump in to her at some point. I really loved her. I don't know just sucks. But from the positive side I learned alot about being in a serious relationship. It was definately an experience. I did alot of good, and did alot of Bad, and I'm certainly going to learn from the mistakes I made in that relationship. It's only been 3 weeks and I havent contacted her not so bad so far lol.
Author kaws Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 Yeah I will just deactivated that thing, I will in a few weeks. I'm going to focus on making myself better so the next girl who im in a relationship will see that I am mentally stable, happy, financially stable, and confident
TheHurtProcess Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I have yet to hear any stories about how Facebook made someone's relationship / marriage better... It's always the opposite. Just in the break up, second chance and coping forums, look at how many posts are about Facebook. If you want to read some awesome Facebook Stories... Head over to the Divorce Forum... Most of the "I want to leave my wife / husband" threads involve Facebook. Facebook = Drama / Relationship Killer / Home Wrecker I totally agree... DELETE!
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