HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 thinking back on everything that has happened in my life, particularly my break up, how I handled it, and how far I have come as a person since then I have come to the conclusion that Everything is Mind over Matter. Why would they dump you? because in their mind it is for the best, why are you going through so much pain? because in your mind it is for the absolute worst. Now I want everyone that reads this, even if you don't agree, to try and think of all the things you are grateful for... feel good? even if you don't it's fine but try to set aside a few minutes every day to think of all the things you are grateful of. now lets continue... Now think of all the times in your life where you faced a seemingly impossible (at the time) obstacle and overcame it, what mindset where you in when you tried to beat that obstacle and how did you feel after? Think of a time where you didn't overcome an obstacle, how was your mindset then? I hope this is making sense in that in order to , in this case, heal from a breakup you need to have that mindset of YES I CAN DO THIS. I'll share a quick story about when I first realized that mindset is the key to overcome every situation. I was in high school gym class and we had to do the "fit test" where you do as many push ups, pull ups, sit ups... as you can and you get rated over the nation boards and world boards (not scored, more along the lines of are you more or less fit than the average person of your age, height, and weight). anyway I happened to have the class with this full of himself jock who put everyone else down and boasted his athletic skills constantly. He put me down on several occasions about him being in better shape than me (I wasn't in shape at the time, but I wasn't overweight either). Before we started the push up test he told me that he doesn't know why he has to do this because he is the most fit person in the class and could easily out do everyone in the class in every test. so we start doing push ups (first test I might add) and I'm very much determined to make this guy eat his own words. I closed my eyes while we did the push ups and when I got up to 45ish I felt like everyone was staring at me, ever get that feeling? well I open up my eyes when I got to 50 and sure enough I'm being stared at by everyone in the class and a few faculty members that happened to walk in during the test. as soon as I realized I had beaten this kid the push ups became sooo much harder and I ended at 55. I know I could have done way more if I had kept my eyes closed but I had already accomplished my goal. see what happened here? in my mind I was really at my best so I accomplished my objective. as soon as I realized I had accomplished it that mindset went away. don't get me wrong I still felt GREAT about this I just want you to see that your mind is the key. if you are still having doubts you can watch this video
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