Ladyfuzz Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Its been a month and im still clearly in love with him, but finally we are getting answers. We were together 8 month when he left i was given the its not you its me line, then find hes back with ex. So tonight this is what i was told, his feelings had faded about 3 weeks before we broke up he didnt end it because he didnt wanna hurt me, they faded because we were fighting alot because he talked about our problems with everyone but me, and when ever we had even the smallest fight he would walk away and never talk about it. He tells me he started talking to his ex when our fights began and she told him she is still in love with him, he then said he realised he loves her too, hes not in love with her but he loves her and just wanted to be with her so badly, but he felt bad about me been in love with him and me hurting. Now says he doesnt loves me anymore and she is the only one for him. They were together for 2 month before we got together. Now my take on my situation, we had fights he couldnt handle, he got scared and ran to her, she seemed fun and i just seemed like a nag, he has surpressed his feelings for me and thinks hes in love with her, hes trying to find in her what he had with me, and eventually will figure out his mistake on his own. But you know i cant trust my judgement im in love with the guy because im stupid, so whats the verdict love shack?
SlowBlues Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 You can do better. He is selfish an doesn't know how to communicate his issues clearly. Instead he runs from them to where he thinks he's safe. You're better off not having to deal with his crap.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 Do you know how the relationship between him and his ex ended? I just think it could give more insight on your situation. but from what you have shared... you could have been the rebound, not likely from a previous 2 month relationship but still possible. he was only with her for 2 months, that definitely isn't enough time to get to know each other. at least not fully, so I'm thinking that he got a taste of something he liked and now wants that back. he doesn't sound like he is very good at communicating if he just walks away from fights, maybe you are right in that the fights drove him to her. he has surpressed his feelings for me and thinks hes in love with her, hes trying to find in her what he had with me, and eventually will figure out his mistake on his own. there is a high possibility that you might be right here. you had fights together and they didn't (sounds very childish of him if this is the answer) so he thought she would be a better partner. if you have any information about their past relationship I think we could make a more accurate presumption about what happened. But try to accept the idea that you may never know the real reason.
superchiefs Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I would say that you should just let him go, especially since he is back with his ex. It would be interesting to know why they broke up in the first place. However, now that he has gone back to her, even if he changes his mind yet again and wants to come back to you, would you really want him back? I mean, there would be a very good chance that he could change his mind yet again and end up hooking up with a 3rd girl.
Author Ladyfuzz Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 As much as i was told, he ended it with her because she asscused him of cheating with anyone he talked to, she was insecure and wouldnt let him out of her sight and it brought him down. Which if the above is true, i dont know why he would go back. They had been broken up for 6/7 month before we got together. I had accepted for the past month i was possibly the rebound, but given the answers im given ive got to read in code because things are never simple with him. Always running scared when it gets hard.
Author Ladyfuzz Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 I would say that you should just let him go, especially since he is back with his ex. It would be interesting to know why they broke up in the first place. However, now that he has gone back to her, even if he changes his mind yet again and wants to come back to you, would you really want him back? I mean, there would be a very good chance that he could change his mind yet again and end up hooking up with a 3rd girl. I dont think i would want him back, but sometimes we find it hard to let go. I do believe he would leave me again, i believe he will do the same to her too.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 As much as i was told, he ended it with her because she asscused him of cheating with anyone he talked to, she was insecure and wouldnt let him out of her sight and it brought him down. Which if the above is true, i dont know why he would go back. They had been broken up for 6/7 month before we got together. I had accepted for the past month i was possibly the rebound, but given the answers im given ive got to read in code because things are never simple with him. Always running scared when it gets hard. maybe he sees a change in her after all this time, this doesn't mean she has actually changed though. I definitely wouldn't put money on their relationship lasting.
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