Rinilini Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 So I will start this out with a little background information. I am using a dating site after a relationship with a guy fell through, (nothing bad, no rebounds, we just were better as friends). I've met some cool people and I met this new guy, he wrote me we met up for coffee a little over a month ago and things went really well. From that point on I have seen him probably once or twice a week and we have been intimate together. At one point in time I questioned where things were going between us and he said we were "seeing each other" (I hate this term as I am never really sure what it means) and getting to know each other. Things have been fun of course, but they have gone from us hanging out getting to know each other to us hanging out with his friends or siblings (his and mine) and so forth. He hates to use the phone and he refuses to have a fb (that doesn't bother me) he will only text occasionally and it is never to really see how I am just to make plans and then I won't hear from him until the date of hanging out. He also says that when he is at home he likes to disconnect from the world I use to try to text him, but after a while of waiting 4+ hrs to get a response from him I just decided to let him initiate the conversations. I hate that! Is it wrong to want to hear from someone even if it isn't everyday? Should I ask for more communication? Last week he left with his family on a vacation for a week. I haven't heard from him since the night before he left and he came home this past weekend. I am not sure if I should contact him ask how the vacation was see how he is doing and see to set something up to get together or wait and see if he still has some interest with me? I just don't understand how things can seem to go well and then you can be left just wondering!
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Well ... I think the relationship, just exactly as it is, suits him just fine. Feel free to define your wants and needs to him, but evidently his wants and needs and yours don't coincide very much. If he does not respond to your communication about this, then you are going to have to decide whether to accept this relationship as it is, or move on. I'm not a prude - but I do think it would have been wise to establish all the parameters of how this relationship would work - communication styles, frequency, etc - before you got sexual with him. This sounds like a casual sex relationship of convenience, and you do not seem happy with that.
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