jnj express Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If you are still here----you didn't make a mistake---you planned to do what you did----maybe the inviting him to stay with you was a mistake, or the 1st kiss---but everything after that---YOU WANTED TO HAPPEN You probably "O'd", cuz the whole thing was illicit, and you were deceitfully cheating, and the excitement, and thrill got to you You must have a saint for a H----I do not think you have any idea of what his sub-conscious is doing to him, even as I write this You got the greatest gift you will ever recieve---a 2nd chance---do not minimalize it by saying you are getting it due to a mistake!!!!!!
OldOnTheInside Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Oh my. I have a strong feeling this post came from underneath a bridgeI've been thinking this. Sounds similar to another thread from a little while ago. In the small chance that this is real. If you want the marriage to heal, be patient and support your husband.
Untouchable_Fire Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 I usually need lots of stimulation and I didn't have much feelings for him past friendship. He was not really good either and quite small compared to my husband. We did it twice more during the week all 3 times were esentially the same except I was too sick with guilt to have any excitement the middle time. Third time was identical I had an O very quick and he was very quick as well. By the way I am a very straight Christian and have spent a lot of time in prayer with my husband but haven't been able to get past the "O" with this other man......Help! You had a fast orgasm because cheating turns you on! How hard is that to figure out? Besides... who cares how fast it is? The best one of my life took nearly an hour. Some people are just natural cheaters. You may be one of those. God grants scant few reasons for divorce. Adultery is #1... not even physical abuse is on that list. Do you understand what you've done? Really? God forgives.... but that doesn't mean there are no consequences!!! You are lucky in that now your Husband pays that price for you. Honestly, you strike me as either very young and naive or a complete idiot. Absolutely anyone can see what was going to happen based on the choices you made. You txted with the guy because you wanted his attention. You let him into the hotel room because you wanted to kiss him, but deep down you wanted more. You deliberately pursued an affair step by step. This guy didn't push anything onto you. You NEED to fully accept responsibility and stop acting like it was some accident. You actively encouraged this other man with the idea of cheating. I personally think something very big is either wrong with you... or your marriage! Unless you figure it out soon... it's doomed.
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