Vickstar Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If anyone hasnt heard my story then heres a quick summary. My ex bf broke up with me 9 months ago, no contact for 8 months. He broke up with me cos of money problems and he was bored of the relationship, he got into a new relationship not long after but that didnt work out. So sunday night i came home from a friends house and went on facebook and starting talking to my best friend on chat who is still friends with my ex but they dont speak, until that night. My friend told me that he asked how i was, and she replied that i was doing amazingly and how ive got over him (which is kind of a lie, i do think about him now and then). He said hes over me too, but wishes we were friends and regrets removing me as a friend on facebook but didnt want to add me just in case i thought he wanted to get back with me. He then said how him and his friend miss me and my best friend (cos we all used to hang out together) and that we should both go over there places for a few drinks sometime, my friend said i dont think its a good idea. My ex then says well tell v (thats me) that if she wants to add me, please do cos i really want her to be my friend. eeerrr! what the hell?? what does this mean?? So what do i do? do i: A) Add him! yeh lets be friends, put the past behind us, forgive and forget etc etc or B) Not add him! does he really deserve my friendship after the heartache he put me through?
OhMittens Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 If you can just be friends, and want to be friends.. then go for it. If not then save yourself the drama.
iceweasel6 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 My friend told me that he asked how i was, and she replied that i was doing amazingly and how ive got over him (which is kind of a lie, i do think about him now and then). Hmm....your friend would have done you better service by being transparent and telling him, "yeah, she really likes you and hasn't gotten over you". To start things off with a lie is to doom things from the start. Damn near impossible to recover from a lie - it's that whole trust issue thing. So what do i do? do i: A) Add him! yeh lets be friends, put the past behind us, forgive and forget etc etc or B) Not add him! does he really deserve my friendship after the heartache he put me through? Neither. You both don't deserve each other - friendship or otherwise. Your both manipulative, non-truthful, and nontransparent people. Stay away from each other. Learn from your mistakes. Don't repeat them going forward, and grow.
love4me2c Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 My personal opinion on the matter of friendships after romantic relationships is that I don't even entertain the idea. You've gone so far, keep going and don't look back. I did, we ended up marrying and then 9 years later separated and awaiting a finalized divorce. Trust me, keep moving on!
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