Sugarkane Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Especially if tehy had GIGS and you did everything right in the relationship. And you never begged, pleaded or contacted them.
OhMittens Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 You can do nothing to make them do anything. If they want to be in the relationship and feel like it can work they may come back, if not then they wont.
leoc1973 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Hey in my experience what makes a dumper regret especially with GIGS is when you meet someone else and they feel like they are going to lose you forever. This has happened with me literally with every girl I have ever had a relationship with. I can look back to all 5 of my serious girlfriends through the years and its almost a carbon copy. I date a girl she dumps me I meet someone new they come back, I tell them its too late, they beg and cry and say they made a huge mistake and lost "the best thing that has ever happened to them". I usually HAVE moved on by that point. The latest one we have been apart for 6 weeks I have just started seeing someone new. She sent me a message saying how much she loved me and how hard this is for her. I did not reply I got another more in depth one. This one is the same as the first with the I love you miss you so hard for me but this is why I broke up with you. I still have not responded. I actually like this new girl so I think I will not go back I hope. However, if i see her I will probably crack. My point is when someone is in the GIGS phase yes they do at the time think the grass is greener until they look back over the fence and see another dog on their lawn. Its crazy how powerful jealousy is especially if you were good to him/her.
flitzanu Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 leo does make a good point. it's not 100% pure science and logic, but MOST girls even if they don't want you...don't want anyone else to have you either. you meet someone else and they'll show their jealousy. if they don't show emotion? move along. once she shows you indifference, you're done for.
jabo0112 Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 It's like clockwork for me too. I'm still friends with some exes on facebook or they may hear what I'm doing through other friends and it never fails. As soon as it seems I am moving towards someone else, I get the messages and texts. Sometimes its "I really need help with something" to get me talking...sometimes its how are you doing/whats new....and there are a few others as mentioned above. As I'm getting older it actually is humorous to me and I play along with it to see what happens (unless I'm actually really liking someone...then I don't respond). I think it's almost a comfort zone for them too. They want to have the satisfaction of knowing that even though you are talking to someone else, they can still get a response from you and you will still "help" them or whatever. I even recently actually said I would help one girl with what she was asking for...but as soon as that happened the problem was solved. It's funny how people work. I'm too honest and genuine for that crap, but I've also realized I need to learn a bit of the game playing to be successful and learn how to understand people better.
Ultrasonic Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Easiest way to make anyone regret anything. Immediately make it seem like you're unfazed. Publicly have fun, with multiple people, especially people they talk to. If they track you on FB, talk about doing stuff that you've never discussed with them. Hopefully you have some friends on FB that are of the opposite sex that will comment on you having a good time. NC; force them to talk to you; trust me it will happen. When and if you ever run into them, make it very nonchalant; don't seem like you're overly excited to see them; just treat them like a normal friend. This list can go on for awhile. Honestly, the best thing to do is simply improve upon yourself; be positive; look good; work out if you usually don't. If you do just those three alone, they'll be looking at you.
GreenPolicy Posted June 23, 2011 Posted June 23, 2011 Sugarkane, You should be working on meeting somebody else an not wanting your ex back, especially after all this time and the way he left you. How could you trust him again?
loverboy1984 Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 My ex has GIGS but she still says she loves me. Also she says I need to find someone who can love me the way I deserve to be loved and that person is not her. So I wonder if I did find someone else would she still regret it or be jelous?
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