Nickelbee Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 ;)Hi, ive been broken up with my gf for a little over 3 months. I am the dumpee. NC initiated after 1 begging, and email. She seemes happy after break up. I feel much better now and it keeps getting better! Also it gave me time to reflect upon my actions during the relationship. We did both criticize each other- not healthy at all. Love is blind, or what you think might be love. She wanted me to change ,but i resisted. I didnt want anothr mother:-) I never felt accepted for who I am. Alo my ethnicity was always degraded in subtle comments... I realised during NC that i was just mybe codependent. I think everyone in life, from you family to the people you meet, sort of has a purpose. I learned a lot i didnt know about myself after 3 years with her. I have decided to change myself for ME! I think i was depressed during the realtionship. Ive been dumped once before (but mainly my fault i know), and didnt get over her for 2-3 years. I still think aboiut her sometimes. Love yourself, and people come and go, but someone will stay with you even if you have all the faults in the world. Thats love; to love your mistakes (not talking about abusive etc). I started to work out, eat healthier, quit smoking, loving my job and just being positive. Negativity is just a killer. Nothing like this would have happende unless i really did crushing soulsearching, and saw my mistakes. Its no point blaming the dumper - they are not always selfish in that sense they also have dreams/hopes/partner expectations. If you dont meet them as a partner, and they dump you, it just means you are not compatible. They are not selfish in that sense i think. I forgive my ex, , and I only wish her well to be honest. After break up she opened my eyes, and I will be ever gratefull for that. I do think about her, but we were just not meant to be. Thats it. Instead of going through heartbreak, smile everytime you think of him/her - and remember that youre perfect - God makes no mistake. Thank you LS - you guys really help!
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