annabanana85 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 I started dating this guy two weeks ago. At first I did not have any physical attraction to me but he was very smart and intellectual and we had a lot of things in common. He had just gotten out of a serious long term relationship two weeks ago (5 year) but he reassured me that this would not cause any trouble since he had fallen out of love with her long time ago. Plus he was in the US for a year and the girlfriend was back home in Europe. I was also worried because he was temporarily in the US and I did not want to get involved but again he reassured me that he would try to get a job in Chicago and stay most likely. After a week of dating, he started getting very serious. He showered me with love and attention and we spent every night together for 5 days. He was very passionate and attentive and even though we had a lot of things in common, I cannot help but think that the also modified some of his interests and thoughts to match mine. He became super clingy; sending me 20 messages a day. I started falling in love with him. Then two days ago out of nowhere he told me that he is not sure about this since he got out of an LTR and he just found out that he has to go back to his home country in 3 months. He told me that he thought I was the right girl and he'll probably never meet someone like me but it was just bad timing. After all this, we talked over chat and he told me that he wants to stay friends. And he does not regret our awesome relationship although he thinks it was egotistical on his part because I was hurt badly. It is completely true because I felt so depressed and dejected after he withdrew all of a sudden with no explanation after his persistent displays of affection and love.He also told me that he has psychological problems and has to go home to continue therapy. Now I feel used and abused. I cannot help but think that he was being very rational from the beginning and just used my naivete to help him get over his girlfriend. Am I right to feel that way
D-Lish Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 yeah, sounds like it. Don't accept friendship as a consolation prize- walk away and don't look back.
Author annabanana85 Posted June 21, 2011 Author Posted June 21, 2011 too bad, I really believed in the illusion of love for sometime!
utterer of lies Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 too bad, I really believed in the illusion of love for sometime! What did you learn from your experience?
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