chasingpavement Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 So my ex boyfriend and I mutually broke up about 2 months ago after 4 years together. While we loved each other very much, we knew things would not work out with marriage at the end because we are not of the same ethnicity and it was very important for him to retain his culture (and to please his parents). He went into the relationship knowing that we would definitely end at some point but I went in thinking there was the potential beyond just dating. In the middle, he told me this and I really loved him so I told him that I wanted to be with him for as long as I could and face the worst whenever it came. The couple weeks before the breakup were two of the worst weeks of my life. He started distancing himself from me and started hanging out excessively with friends (clubbing, dinners, drinks almost every single night without me). It made me feel worthless and like complete crap. Anyway it's a long story for those horrible weeks so I won't go into details. So we broke up and I decided on NC but we it was only kind of effective. I had to get my stuff back and just a text here and there maybe every two weeks. I really missed him in the beginning and was hoping he wanted to see me but I resisted trying to meet up with him, except once. He built my hopes up by saying maybe and then never showed up, so I stopped trying because I didn't want to feel let down again and move 10 steps back from my progress (that was 2 maybe 3 weeks after the breakup). Now it's 2 months later and I'm doing really really well. I don't miss him much anymore and I have my own schedule and it just feels great to be on my own and independent. We randomly texted and I respond very casually without giving him many details and I'm always the one to stop the conversation. Recently, he started calling me by my pet name and just this past weekend he said something like it would have been nice to see you at blah blah blah. I don't want to look into this too much, but do you think he really wants to see me or is he just saying this stuff to pull me in again because I seem like I'm doing fine? I mean it would be nice to see him but I'm not sure if I should and I feel bad for not reciprocating and saying that I wanted to see him too or something (I want to see him, but don't really want him to know that). I know that if I were in the same position as him and I said that to him but I got no response, I would feel sad. I want text him back and say lets meet up sometime, but is it still too early? Am I looking into this too much by thinking about how he would feel? I still care about him a lot, so I'm not sure what I should do...any ideas or insight into this situation? Thanks.
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