LittleJ Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 So i just did some free writing about my experience with a guy who i was seeing for 3 months, and then poof, he disappeared with no explanation other than "I'm busy". I have this strong temptation to send him this free write as a way for me to get my feelings out of my system and express them to him. The letter is open, brutally honest, vulnerable...and so on. should i send it? I want him to know how i feel even though it has been made clear from his disappearance, that he doesn't care how i feel. To send or not to send? Note: He disappeared in April. We've spoken maybe 3 times since then. Am I going to be considered psycho if I send this, or can it have some impact?
lalalandman Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Only 3 months and he disappeared. Enough said. Don't send that note.
Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It's good that you have written the letter. What to do is keep reading it to yourself the next few days and hopefully you will realise how pointless it is. Why should you have to chase someone that has dissapeared like that ? By his actions he clearly couldnt care less how you feel so what good would opening up your soul to him do ? You would be giving up your pride and opening the door to humiliation. Any contact has to come from him - not initiated by you.
Author LittleJ Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks Kilty That was just the pep talk i needed to keep me from re-humiliation. You're right. I've already tried, like 3 times. what's this attempt going to do? Time to get off the computer. Thanks...seriously. Sometimes all i need is to hear that voice of reason.
Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks Kilty That was just the pep talk i needed to keep me from re-humiliation. You're right. I've already tried, like 3 times. what's this attempt going to do? Time to get off the computer. Thanks...seriously. Sometimes all i need is to hear that voice of reason. my pleasure - and thanks - its not often someone says i am the voice of reason I wish i could take my own advice a lot more You'll be fine soon Anytime you want to vent well that's what this place is for x
california15 Posted June 21, 2011 Posted June 21, 2011 Don't send it. I mean you could... but ask yourself how you'd feel if: 1) he doesn't reply 2) he replies with some nasty gram telling you to F**K off or that he hates you or to leave him alone Write it for your own healing purposes. Get it out. Don't hold back. Its therapeutic. But don't send it.
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