marigo Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 (edited) About a year ago, I met this guy and there was that instant connection. However, I was still going through a break up then and just wasn't ready to date or to even meet guys. The guy saw that too and even told my friend that he knows im 100% still in love with my ex. I rejected him when he tried kissing me but he still asked me out on a date. I thought the date went fine until he told me he's gonna call me the next day and never heard from him again. I thought maybe i gave him mixed signals so i decided to make the moves and texted him and called him. He never really responded and so i took that as him not being interested. He was leaving for another country for a few months and so i just told myself that i really do like him and maybe when he comes back i'll be ready (of course, i have to see if he'd still be single then). After 5 months, he came back from abroad and there was a hang out at my friend's place. He was there and we were talking and there was that spark again. That instant connection we had the last time we saw each other. I could also feel that he was interested and so i started thinking maybe he just gave me the time i needed or something and plus he was leaving. Anyway on february, that day we saw each other again, he asked me to go to an out of town event this June (well he asked my friend to ask me) and a couple of my friends are going to that as well, however, i wouldnt be able go because i already have an important event to go to on the same day. But we agreed to hang out right after my event and after his. Yes, i traveled out of town to hang out with him after his event. I didnt really hear from him since february and i was okay with that coz i kept thinking, we'll just see what happens this june after the event. The event was last weekend and things went perfectly. We were talking the entire time and were very affectionate with each other. We held hands, hugged, kissed for the first time, and towards the end of the night, we ended up making love. Im not the type to make love with someone who isnt my boyfriend (in fact ive only done it with one other guy-my ex who was my first boyfriend) but it felt right with him. And to me, he wasnt just a random guy coz i have been waiting for him for a pretty long time now. Also that night, as we were kissing we finally admitted to each other that we like each other. We both told each other that we havent dated anyone since we met each other a year ago. Now looking back, i kinda wish i asked whats gonna happen after this. Anyway, the next day, he seemed very different. Maybe we both just didnt know how to act towards each other. So we didnt really talk. Towards the later part of the day, we were talking but not as much. We held hands and when it was time to go our different rooms, we hugged and kissed. Later on that night, my friends set it up so him and i would be sleeping in the same room and bed (the room is also shared with another couple so i know nothings gonna happen). But i thought he could at least try holding my hand or something, but nope! He didnt try to hold my hand, didnt try to hug me or kiss me. I ended up kissing him goodnight and i felt stupid. Im really usually not this forward. Then last day of this out of town trip. He wasnt talking much again. I found out something has been bugging him all weekend related to his job and he has to deal with it when he comes back home. So i thought thats probably why he wasnt talking much. Anyway, when we finally parted ways to go home, we kissed and he told me to call him but he never picked up and i left a message. I sent him a text later that night just to let him know that i had a great time. He responded but unfortunately, dumb text was cut off and i asked for him to send it again but he didnt. I talked to my friend whos known him for a longer time than i do and she said that thats how he is. He doesnt talk much and that he really just doesnt text or call anyone. She said if im gonna date him, i need to be prepared to be with someone who doesnt really talk and someone who i probably wont hear from for weeks. Because he is naturally forgetful and hes just that way. It made me feel better talking to my friend but at the same time im still confused. I know hes going through a lot health wise and so im not demanding to give me all his time. But its just hard coz i dont feel that hes putting any effort at all. Im not in a hurry to have a boyfriend and waiting for him isnt a problem for me. But i just cant help but question what if im waiting for nothing? I havent heard from him in a week which is very typical of him. Id be surprised if i actually hear from him. I dont doubt that he likes me. But maybe he just doesnt like me enough to try? Maybe the spark is one sided and its only from my part?? I dont know what to think. Im soo confused!! Any thoughts?? I would really appreciate it you guys! Edited June 20, 2011 by marigo
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