Tessabell94 Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 Hi, my name is tess. Me and my now ex dating for a decent length of time, and we were considering getting promise rings. But then I started to feel like he was losing feelings for me, he would ignore me, be rude, and just generally unpleasant...and one day I screwed up BIG! for about a week it felt that he didn't have feelings for me. After we would have sex, the first thing he would do you be to get a shower, and then go hang out with his friend...not even stopping to give me a goodbye. the entire relationship before the last month of it was amazing! It truly was a fairy tale romance. and that one night, I was with him and his friends hangout, but the entire time he would ignore me, and if he wasn't he was treating me as if I was a waitress,"go get..." "take this...". and I felt ignored and was in dire need of somebody to show that they loved me...and needless to say it wasn't from him, but instead his cousin, and one of his close friends. I thought nothig of it and all three of us went for a walk. But the entire time his friend would make advances on me, and both of them generally thought that I should break up with him...But I loved him s o I couldn't do that. As we were walking they then told me that he had slept with another woman, instantly my world shattered before me...later after we came back, one of them came up with the Idea to go skinny dipping...I wasn't for it but had a greed to go in my bra and underwear, seeing as I didn't have a swim suit. in the end I had some how been convinced to get in with out anything on. i was in thee water no more than fifteen seconds before his cousin grabbed ahold of my crouch, and kept trying to touch my boobs. I immediatly got out of the water and had went back inside to get a shower. after I got out they still continued to make advances at me. I had eventually fallin asleep on them both and woke up to find that his cousin had laft, but his friend was still there. it was still night at the time, and his friend continued to make advances at me. I then faked being tired and went to lay down with my boyfriend to avoid anymore damage to the relationship that I had. In the morning, I had expected to tell him about it, but his cousin had...It made it seem as if the whole thing was my idea, he became instantly pissed and had instantly broken it off. I was devastated, but I knew that he had to feel betrayed. we both a promise when we first started dating that we would try to be friends...and we sat and talked about it and got back together. then about a week later on our aniversary he calls to tll me that he can;t trust me, and that I needed to regain his trust...that was the third time he had broken up with me. but the thing is I don't know what to do, I have been completely honest with him about the entire situation. I want to gain back his trust...he wants to just be friends for a couple of months, maybe even years. I NEED to get his trust back, this is that man that I want to spend the rest of my life with and I don't know what to do. If anybody can help me it would be of great use, because everything I've done has only managed to push him farther and farther away...
Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 If i was you id be happy i was out of the whole situation. And sorry to say it - but the whole night with him, his friend and his cousin appears to be a bit of a set up. What kind of impression do they have of you. What kind of loyalty does his cousin and friend have towards him. What kind of protective loving boyfriend would allow a situation like that to occur ? From the story you have told it seems that you have been treated like a complete tramp and not just that night either. The cousin and friend must have gotten the impression that you were easy and i wonder where they got that idea from ? Your boyfriend ? He has broken up with you 3 times, he has become ignorant and rude towards you and unpleasant not to mention treating you like a servant in front of his friends ? Why in Gods name do you want anything more to do with him or his creepy cousin and friend(s) ? Get out there and find yourself someone that will never treat you like that or allow a situation like that to develop
Author Tessabell94 Posted June 20, 2011 Author Posted June 20, 2011 It's funny though he was the sweetest guy in the world, and the majority of the time that he is mean is when ever he is under the influence(usually weed)
Kilty Posted June 20, 2011 Posted June 20, 2011 It's funny though he was the sweetest guy in the world, and the majority of the time that he is mean is when ever he is under the influence(usually weed) Well there's another good reason for having no more to do with him ! You can do much better
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